My boyfriend and I have been friends for years but only recently started dating. He is autistic and a real penny pincher. He even decided not to buy me something recently because of the cost. Now he’s sending his old phone internationally to a girl in Italy who said she’s being abused and might have her phone taken away. He told me he’s been speaking to her online for a few years and that she’s a good friend. He’s assured me he’s not emotionally involved with her romantically, but he only mentioned this phone thing when I asked and didn’t explain much.
He said sending the phone will be expensive, and while I don’t think it’s that costly, I know to him it’s a big deal. I’m worried because it was his own phone and there could be personal info on it that might cause problems. I also think he might be too trusting and I probably would have blocked the person by now. I don’t want to stop him helping someone, but something feels off and I don’t trust it anymore.
I find it hard to believe there’s no one else in her life who could help her, and I feel like something suspicious might be going on. He always says I can talk to him about anything but I’m scared to bring this up because I think he’ll get defensive. I feel a bit wrong going behind his back by asking here, but I’m not sure what else to do. Has anyone else been in a similar situation or have advice?