My friend is in an abusive relationship. She told me late last night her and her partner got into a row because he pushed her off him while she was giving oral sex because she didn’t want him to touch her bum as she is on her period. Apparently she made it “awkward”. She proceeded to have a row and he got very irate and was calling her all sorts of names. He had an empty Stanley cup in his hand where he pretended to throw the cup at her causing her to flinch and become scared. She is scared of him anyway because he does this all the time during and argument and when she’d told him she was scared of him in the past he said “good”. He justifies his abuse towards her by saying she is making him react that way with what she did/said. She’s genuinely scared of him. This morning he made her a cup of coffee before he left to almost break the ice. She was still upset that he scared her so she rejected it. The argument commenced and she told me she was under the quilt as she thought there was a real sever chance he could throw the coffee at her (he didn’t) but that’s intimidating this man is.
every time she leaves he makes her feel he reacted that way because of what SHE did and then she goes back. She’s at a point she doesn’t see the point in leaving only to return again. I don’t know how to help her.