Feeling sad again Dh related

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I honestly feel let down all the time by dh. He is a functioning alco. The latest one is he “somehow” didnt take the photo of me n my son at his uni graduation. Now we are home and going thru the photos everyone is photographed (me making sure everyone included and multiple times). Where is the one of me and my son??? Oh im the only one not there, as hubby didnt realise he didnt really take one?? Im quite hurt and now im quiet at home. He keeps saying sorry. Ok fair enough. But i am still sad and will be sad. As yet again im let down by him. Always seems me being the afterthought, or bottom of the pile in family stuff. Im alone quiet in bedroom. He gone off huffy. Like its my fault im sad. Ok 😢 …. I’ll just pretend im fine yet again. He wont tarnish my day of feeling proud though. Sorry i had to just get this out :(

Being a functioning alcoholic and not taking a picture of your wife and son (deliberately or thoughtlessly ?) are very different things .
Sometimes if we really want something , we need to ask for it or do it .

Separate the 2 things.
Alcoholic is one issue - it’s a biggie and it won’t just go away or get better, it’ll get worse. And there will be more and more little issues arising, that will become bigger. And even the little ones will grate like hell (like the graduation pics) just because you know they’re the tip of the iceberg.
And you’re feeling frustrated as hell because you know inside, that the only good place to be is a long way away from that iceberg.

I know this doesn’t deal with your DH problem, but have you considered using AI/photoshop to crop together a picture of you and your son so you have one? I think there are Facebook groups that will do it for you if you can’t do it yourself.

Take a group photo to a SnappySnaps in the High Street (or similar photo processing shop) & get them to splice a photo of you and your son together. I’m sure they can help you.

OP,

Why are you and he still together? Do you not think you can leave and if this is the case what is stopping you?.

Stop pretending you are fine because that is doing you a disservice.

If there are two photos of your son and you separately computer software can merge images together. And indeed places like a camera shop or snappy snaps in the high street can assist.