is this bad?

[Geniusbaar]

Just wanting some advice really.

my finance is still sharing reels and liking each others posts on Facebook and instagram with his ex.

they have an amicable split, it was 10 years ago but it stilL makes me uncomfortable.

happy otherwise, might just be being a bit over sensitive.

any thoughts?

A few follow up questions

• How long have you been with him?
• The split was 10 years ago. How long were they together?
• Does he have any kids with his ex?
• Is there a reason why they are still friends? Are they part of the same social circle?
• Does their contact go beyond sharing reels and liking posts? Do they text? Do they see each other out and about? Do they still have contact?

No kids, weren’t married. Were together 10 years and no. Don’t see each other or have friends. She lives in Liverpool. We are in Southampton.

We’ve been together 2 years

If all of it is limited to social media, and there's no personal contact of any kind, no chatting,... And it's not like he's liking bikini photo's of her at the beach... I'd let it go.

It’s all very benign. Likes and reels. Nothing personal or flirtatious.

they ended very well and she has since remarried etc.

just wanted to get another opinion.

thank you.

Have you actually asked them why they do that ?? It must make you uncomfortable as you have posted on here.

“Always have” “it’s the only contact we’ve had”

it’s not a flame, it’s minimal passing.

im not 100% comfortable but i don’t use social media.

So have you told him it makes you uncomfortable?

If they don't see each other and the contact with her doesn't mean anything to him then if you are uncomfortable with their continued connection surely it wouldn't be a problem to him to stop their interaction.

If you are getting married then you should really have the conversation with him about this otherwise it's going to fester with you .

Oh for god’s sake, you feel ‘uncomfortable’ with someone clicking a thumbs-up button on a social media post by a person they split up with ten years ago who lives 250 miles from you and is married to someone else? Why? What on earth do you think is inappropriate about that? It’s utterly inconsequential.

Well. It’s often about 10/15 reel shares a day.

I never understand people who stay in contact with exes like this, it's not like they're even friends, it's the equivalent of posting a load of random photos through eachother's doors every day without context or conversation.

Maybe I'm just old.

OP, what you've just done, this is what's called "drip-feeding".
You start off not giving us a full picture. People ask additional questions which you only half answer. And then, after people have given you their opinions, you drip a very important piece of information, which completely changes the context of your original post.
Do you not realise how you could have saved us all a lot of time if you had made a somewhat complete post?

You've gone from "they share reels and like posts" to "they are in constant contact 10 to 15 times a day, every day"
Obviously that's going to change peoples replies.

So, is it really 10/15 interactions a day, every single day?
And if so, it seems incredibly unlikely that their interactions are limited to this. I can't imagine someone crossing my mind enough to send them 15 reels a day, every single day, and not have any other kinds of conversations with that person.

Liking a post that comes up on his feed — which presumably includes her new husband and life is fine. Sending reels is a bit inappropriate as it definitely has the implication that he saw something and actively thought of her. This would make me uncomfortable as he is continuing their relationship through ‘in jokes’ and shared memories. If it was very infrequent I would let it go assuming I felt secure in our relationship but 10-15 reels a day is hugely inappropriate and would lead me to believe he still has some feelings.