Relationship difficulties - advice appreciated

[Behappier]

I would really appreciate people's views on difficulties I have been having in my relationship. We have been together since teenagers for over 20 years. We now have two young children. We have both changed a lot in that time as you would expect, but my husband's political views have changed quite drastically in the last say 7 years. His views are now to the right (most closely aligned to Reform) and are now very different to my own. He was not hugely political before then, but was closer to centre/centre left.

I'm really struggling tbh. I think I'm tolerant of different views when I speak to people generally, but with my life partner I want to be much more aligned on these issues. I am finding it a constant strain and feel like he is now a different person. I'm not really sure what to do.

We've obviously been together for so long I want to try to find a solution, but I can't see an obvious way forward. We've tried not talking about issues, but it feels like we are just growing more distant (also likely due to the inevitable struggles of maintaining a relationship with young children).

I can't see things changing any time soon. Does anyone have any advice? How would you approach this?

A cuddle

Unfortunately - I don't think there is a solution, unless you learn to not talk about current affairs, or anything of substance really.
It is not anybody's fault, but it does happen often that relationships that start in teenage years - run into troubles in mid-late 30s, when people realise that they do not work together as fully grown adults. Which is clearly your case.
Trying to save this relationship just because you have already invested 20 years of your life into it - is really not a great reason to cling to this. You both are too young - and have a long life ahead of you to force yourself to be in a relationship what will only deteriorate further and further, as you become even more distant from each other.

Divorce is not easy, but it's better than living in a dying marriage and having your kids go through it.

My DH is an avid Trump supporter and is exceedingly far right in a lot of his views. I struggled bigtime with it but am learning to not listen to the political rants and to "grey rock". We can talk about other things but not politics. Is this something you could try?