How long before introducing children?

[Spicynoodlesheal]

Just that really. My son is 5 years old and ive been dating a woman (we are both female) for 4 months. We get on amazingly. She has 3 daughters but all grown up, one of which i have met. Her daughter has asked when she will get to spend more time getting to know me which I thought was kind of nice I guess?

But it got me thinking, how long before I introduce to my son? I dont want to rush things but I also want to gauge what she is like around my child before I commit any more time with her.

Four months is not very long - I wouldn't be introducing any partner to your child until you know them better. I would wait a few more months at least.

At least get to six months then try a simple introduction appropriate to DS’s age

Can you introduce her as your friend, rather than someone you're seeing? If you can I'd do that & spend some time together & if you're happy with how they are together I'd 'date' !& spend time as friends together with DS keep the 'couple' stuff away from DS for longer (not at all because you're sane sex. Just so that she doesn't become a more important person in his life than a friend would until you're more sure of it lasting.)

DH and I were dating for almost a year before I introduced him to my DCs.
And the first meeting was extremely casual - he popped round to pick something up and I introduced him as a friend who I’ve been spending more time with.
Over the coming weeks the ball was 100% in the DC’s court: we’d go to the park and I’d ask them if they’d be ok if he came with us. Then it progressed to me asking them if they’d like to invite him to have dinner at our house. If they’d ever have said no, then it would have been a solid no. After a few months I asked them “How would you feel if he was my boyfriend instead of just my friend?” - and they were fine with that.
They liked him, and he was great with them. We’ve now been married a few years and I’m pretty sure my youngest DC likes him better than she likes me 🤨🤨😂😂