My best, lifelong friend is single in her early forties and is desperate to meet a man and have kids (she doesn't feel like she can have kids alone). She met a man online who made, for me, what I considered a completely unreasonable request. He said that he needed her to dress in a very particular way for the first date. He needed her definitely to wear red high heels. And also have her hair down. Otherwise he seemed sane (based on public info about him), and very successful.
I told her it was a massive red flag, and that I would stop immediately. We had a lengthy discussion on this.
My friend then rang me the next day to say she was still considering the relationship. And she asked me what I thought about that. I then said (admittedly possibly in slight irritation) that I would not give an opinion. That I would listen to her, but that she should make the decision by herself and deal with the consequences.
She got very, very upset with me, and said "if I don't know what I've done wrong, then there is a big problem".
I would like better understanding about why what I said is wrong. Is it just my tone? (I'm not a very sensitive person, and she is hugely sensitive, which, although difficult, is what makes her a good friend). I would like to apologise to her, but need to understand what the problem is. Is it my choice of words ("deal with the consequences") or is there something else as well?