Dh asked my opinion on a trivial
matter of house decorating/. I said I didn’t think it would look right. Then came the ‘You were always going to say it wasn’t right no matter what I said!’ and ‘I’ve done all of the work (on the decorating decision) and you haven’t done anything’. It’s just not true. I stood up for myself and then it just comes down to him denying that he said what I said and that I’m just after an argument. It’s just so stupidly trivial but for me so upsetting. He just goes to bed and when I said I don’t like us going to bed on an argument he says ‘I’m wanting to start the argument again’. Married for 20 years. Have 3 kids, one with a severe Learning disability who I care for full time as he isn’t able to go to school. Supported DH through a mental health crisis twice. I honestly just want a happy life and for us to help each other out. What do I do with these feelings. I want resolution, I hate the resentment that this kind of thing causes. He’s already having therapy can’t see theres any room for couple therapy. Feeling sad