How to stop comparing and get proper perspective

[Elixir86]

Hi all,

I’m looking for some positive ways to remind myself that I’m on my own unique journey and that comparison isn’t helpful.
I have a bad habit of measuring myself against others’ achievements (something I’m actively trying to work on), and I’ve hit a bit of a low point lately. My most recent dating disappointment happened to coincide with someone I know getting married, which has been a tough reminder of loneliness. To make matters trickier, it's another woman who separated from her ex more than a year after I did finding what seems to be her happy ending.

I do know that none of this truly defines me or my worth, and that her life isn’t “better” than mine, we’re simply on different paths, and my time will come.
But when it feels like these reminders are everywhere, how do you keep that perspective front and center?

With the festive season fast approaching (which was quite difficult for me last year), I’d like to get ahead of this dip in mood and put some things in place to help break that negative cycle.

@Elixir86 apparently they say comparison is the thief of joy!

Following this thread as im the same, im a single parent, left an abusive relationship years ago. Been plugging on along, nothing has really worked out relationshipwise. Kids very happy. Friend met her partner via work whilst child was a baby so a bit of crossover with marriage ending though her husband was a waster anyway. But her new man absolutely dotes on her and her child. They are always so blissfully happy, he does everything for the child so my friend can just focus on her work. I want all that. My ex can have a temper so I don't really encourage the kids to go there. I literally stand at various events like a lemon where people say 'I don't know how you manage it'. I just look at my friend and feel so despondent.