I’ve just come to realise that my family don’t want me. I’ve always been a little bit different, took a different path in life. I’ve always been interested in different peoples lives and opinions and love to talk. My family want me to just be a yes person, never question them. I’m the only one who is like this and I’m always been on the outside, an after thought.
My sister followed the same path as mum, children as a teenager, money, house. I have those things but I did it a different way and I’m vocal that we don’t all have to be the same. My mum gets angry when she is challenged. Apparently I am the problem.
Anyway I’ve read a few threads about narc families and I think mine is. My mum is surrounded by people who support her, my dad just agrees and he has to pass everything past her. My sister is around her house all the time, no friends , never comes to me. I have lots of friends so I don’t feel the need to live at my mums house. None of my family visit my family and I hardly go now because they don’t bother with us.
Anyway I just wanted to say that I feel quite sad that my family don’t want me. I try and live by my belief that we don’t all have to be the same to be loved and I encourage my children to be who they are. But sometimes I look out at the closeness my sister and her kids have with parents and we are on our own. But to be close I have to abandon my opinions and I can’t.