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Old ex has given me the ick

33 replies

PippaDee72 · 18/10/2025 20:48

There is no answer to my post, it's more of a mild expression of distaste for my ex. I'd like to start with the fact I've been happily married for many years. I have kept in touch online with my ex for a few years after reconnecting on Friends Reunited. He's a snake in the grass but the conversations are interesting. I know he's cheated on his long suffering wife so many times. That's why he became my ex. How she's not found out I do not know, maybe she turns a blind eye. Anyway, after not chatting for absolutely ages we have had a catch up earlier this week & he's admitted to yet another affair. Now he's in his mid 60's you'd think he'd have grown up & grown out of it. What really gave me the ick is she looks half his age. Could you carry on communicating with someone like this? His infidelities are not affecting me. I suddenly felt very bored by him, rolled my eyes & thought grow up you twat. I'm just glad I didn't stay with him & he's not been putting his little lodger anywhere near me all these years 🤮

OP posts:
Original poster
PippaDee72 · 18/10/2025 20:55

Todger, not lodger

OP posts:
Idontjetwashthefucker · 18/10/2025 20:55

He sounds like an utter scumbag, I'm amazed you want to keep in touch with him

Hatty65 · 18/10/2025 20:56

I wouldn't bother keep in touch with someone I despised. What are you gaining from doing so?

Just block him.

Endofyear · 18/10/2025 22:37

Why do you bother to stay in touch with him if he's such an arsehole?

Nescafeneeded · 18/10/2025 22:56

You’re not happily married if you’re messaging your ex.

You sound jealous and like you’re still in love with him, and that you’re hoping writing an unpleasant thread about him will somehow mentally reassert you.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 18/10/2025 22:57

Yeah I judge him and you for keeping in touch with him girl sorry

Naanspiration · 18/10/2025 22:59

A 60 year old with a younger looking woman, good on him. What's wrong with that?

You say "she looks half his age" but you don't actually know her age.

Is she slimmer than you too?

Abit jealous?

ForeverHopeful3 · 18/10/2025 23:02

PippaDee72 · 18/10/2025 20:48

There is no answer to my post, it's more of a mild expression of distaste for my ex. I'd like to start with the fact I've been happily married for many years. I have kept in touch online with my ex for a few years after reconnecting on Friends Reunited. He's a snake in the grass but the conversations are interesting. I know he's cheated on his long suffering wife so many times. That's why he became my ex. How she's not found out I do not know, maybe she turns a blind eye. Anyway, after not chatting for absolutely ages we have had a catch up earlier this week & he's admitted to yet another affair. Now he's in his mid 60's you'd think he'd have grown up & grown out of it. What really gave me the ick is she looks half his age. Could you carry on communicating with someone like this? His infidelities are not affecting me. I suddenly felt very bored by him, rolled my eyes & thought grow up you twat. I'm just glad I didn't stay with him & he's not been putting his little lodger anywhere near me all these years 🤮

So what qualities do you look for when you say people are your friend or you like to see them and spend time with them?

OhFeyreDarling · 18/10/2025 23:03

Naanspiration · 18/10/2025 22:59

A 60 year old with a younger looking woman, good on him. What's wrong with that?

You say "she looks half his age" but you don't actually know her age.

Is she slimmer than you too?

Abit jealous?

Did you miss the bit about him being married?

But yeah OP why are you still in touch with this ick inducing idiot?

captainoctopus · 18/10/2025 23:07

Why don't you tell his current wife and let her milk him dry before chucking him?

Naanspiration · 18/10/2025 23:13

OP isn't concerned with him being married. Just the fact that his new bird is hotter than her.

Maybe his wife is a fucking nightmare, who are we to judge.

DiscoBob · 18/10/2025 23:17

It's not meant to be a thing for an ex to give you the ick because you don't need to be sexually attracted to them. It's like saying 'The Asda delivery man or the bus driver gave me the ick'.

I don't know why you'd want to be friends with a guy who treats women, including you in the past, so appallingly.

Coconutter24 · 18/10/2025 23:24

I know he's cheated on his long suffering wife so many times. That's why he became my ex.

does that mean he cheated on you that’s why he’s your ex?

OhFeyreDarling · 18/10/2025 23:26

Coconutter24 · 18/10/2025 23:24

I know he's cheated on his long suffering wife so many times. That's why he became my ex.

does that mean he cheated on you that’s why he’s your ex?

Maybe she was one of his APs and that's why he's an 'ex' that she still keeps in touch with

ClareBlue · 18/10/2025 23:30

You're really invested in someone who is an ex, for a happily married women.
Experiencing the Ik is where you realise that some actions of a sexual partner make you not sexually attracted to them anymore. Again, a bit strangefor a happily married person to feel this about someone who is not their spouse.

TryingAgainAgainAgain · 18/10/2025 23:31

I have kept in touch online with my ex for a few years after reconnecting on Friends Reunited. He's a snake in the grass but the conversations are interesting.

What really gave me the ick is she looks half his age.

This is all odd. And a little creepy.

Ashersmom · 18/10/2025 23:31

I think you're protesting a bit too much...

HelenSkeleton · 18/10/2025 23:34

Naanspiration · 18/10/2025 22:59

A 60 year old with a younger looking woman, good on him. What's wrong with that?

You say "she looks half his age" but you don't actually know her age.

Is she slimmer than you too?

Abit jealous?

What's wrong with that? Do you really need to ask? Have you read the OP properly?

BauhausOfEliott · 18/10/2025 23:36

You really need to move on from this guy. You’re happily married, so why you still devoting this level of headspace to some bloke you were with years ago? Why are you still keeping tabs on him and his life and relationships when you apparently don’t like him? It’s clearly not just about ‘interesting conversations’; you must have other people in your life for chats. It’s a bit weird to be doing this, and even weirder that you want to share it on Mumsnet so you can devote even more time to it. Have some dignity and stop.

BauhausOfEliott · 18/10/2025 23:37

ClareBlue · 18/10/2025 23:30

You're really invested in someone who is an ex, for a happily married women.
Experiencing the Ik is where you realise that some actions of a sexual partner make you not sexually attracted to them anymore. Again, a bit strangefor a happily married person to feel this about someone who is not their spouse.

Quite.

MidnightMeltdown · 19/10/2025 00:56

You obviously aren’t over him OP, you are way too invested

TooBigForMyBoots · 19/10/2025 00:58

Why are you hanging out with him @PippaDee72?

DrowningInSyrup · 19/10/2025 01:07

You being in touch with him and writing this very strange thread gives me more of an ick than he does.

If you told a friend about it, she'd probably start avoiding you.

whimsicallyprickly · 19/10/2025 01:12

I couldn't keep communicating with such a horrible person

I'd tell his wife about his affair/s

Subwaystop · 19/10/2025 01:14

Naanspiration · 18/10/2025 22:59

A 60 year old with a younger looking woman, good on him. What's wrong with that?

You say "she looks half his age" but you don't actually know her age.

Is she slimmer than you too?

Abit jealous?

What’s wrong with you!?

he sounds like a total twat and there’s a lot wrong with a 60 year old married man chasing young women. Yuck, speaking of, your comment gave me the ick.