Does he like me

[Jessy56]

Need advice, people, a guy I have met in the gym, I have totally fallen for. We kiss each other we go out for drinks, but he says he doesn't like me. When it comes to the gym, I catch him looking at me, and when we talk he holds gaze at me. Im so confused.

He says he doesn’t like you so I would listen to that truth and not lie to yourself.

Does he actually say "I don't like you." I wouldn't go for drinks with someone who was so nasty to me, however hot he was. And I certainly wouldn't kiss him!

I know it's hard when you are really in to someone, but for your own peace I think you need to walk away.

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He doesn’t like you. Simple.

Sounds like he finds you quite physically attractive though.

Men will sometimes lie and say they like a woman they’re messing about with when they actually don’t. The “benefits” they get from this is pretty obvious.

However they will rarely lie and tell a woman they don’t like her when they actually do if they’re somewhat romantically involved, as it’s not in their interest. It wouldn’t make sense for him to lie about not liking and risk you walking away, if he did indeed like you.

Not sure how much respect or consideration this man has for you to treat you like this, but kudos to him for being honest at least.

Sounds like he finds you physically attractive but doesn't want a relationship with you.

Depends on what you want from him. Sounds like he's up for some no strings attached sex, but not more.

He’s told you directly in words none of us could’ve guessed at so how could it be any clearer? I could tell you that no he doesn’t really mean it and he does like you really he’s just tapped in the head and doesn’t know his own mind, but that wouldn’t be helpful other than to make you feel temporarily better and give you false hope.

Why would you waste your time with someone who says they don't like you?

I've just read 'Are They Attracted to Me?: The Tell-Tale Signs of Romantic Interest' by Craig Silk on the kindle. It would give you a good idea if he is into you or not.

He says he doesn't like you? Tell him to f off then!

There is only room for one person in his heart. Himself. He stares and leads you on for the ego boost and attention. We have all met Mr I love me, and he is boring when you get to know him well. Save yourself the bother and find someone who isn't so much trouble, and actually sees you as a human being rather than a fit body he might have sex with if he wants his ego rubbing even more.

He doesn't like you. Stop entertaining him please.

Why on earth are you kissing and going out for drinks with a man who says he doesn’t like you?

He’s enjoying humiliating you. He doesn’t like you, he just gets off on seeing how much he can get from someone while being openly disdainful of them.

He’s bad news, @Jessy56. He sounds like a real bastard if he kisses you but says he doesn’t like you. Find another gym. Remove yourself from this situation. There are good guys out there. He’s not one of them.

So he's a head wrecker.

Why the fuck does he think it's ok to kiss you and tell you he's not into you but keep doing it?

You need to work on your boundaries girl.

This man means you harm. He's a narcissist who is using you liking him to stroke his ego. Stop handing out with him. Duh. Sorry. But duh.

Find a new gym. You don't love him, you are in lust. This guy thinks you're a fool. Find your dignity and stop spending time with him. This isn't a dark romance novel where we date men who hate us and think it's romance. Abuse isn't romantic.

This is over complicating things. He has literally told OP, he doesn’t like her. No need for further investigation or rumination on if he likes her or not.

@Jessy56 don’t waste your money and just use your listening skills and common sense.

Why would you kiss and go for drinks with someone who's told you he doesn't like you?

He'll use you for a shag, turn you inside out and you'll take it.

Change gyms for a bit maybe.

He’s a vain twat who’s enjoying the attention. All he’s doing is breadcrumbing you to keep you interested to give himself an ego boost - and you’re completely falling for it. Raise your standards.

Men aren’t that complicated. If he wanted to be with you, you’d know it. He’d be calling or texting, inviting you out on dates, and telling you he wants to spend time with you - he has told you to your face he doesn’t. Listen to him.

Don’t kiss someone who says they don’t like you! End of.

Have some self esteem he’s using you as a FWB

If you are wondering if a man likes you, then he doesn't. It's that simple.

When a man truly likes you, it is very clear and you have no doubts.