Getting over ex

[Poolgirl66]

ladies I am struggling.
recently split, but wasn’t dating to a long time. Not overly fussed about the split, upset that it didn’t work and have to start all over again at some point.

however, the thing that’s eating me up is that he was a terrible partner hence me ending it, and now has learnt a lot from me in terms of how to communicate and treat someone well, will now go on to execute all that he’s learnt with a new partner.

I know it’s petty but I do feel annoyed about this. Has anyone had this before and how do you get over it?

Omg I’m feeling exactly the same
i got to the end of my tether with the relationship but I’m pissed off that I’m back to square one
and spot on with the next woman thing. He will have learned from our relationship to hide all the stuff that pushed us apart next time . No advice sorry but solidarity .

You don't know that they will use their new found skills with another person. IME they soon return to type. They can't help it. The behavioural patterns are ingrained.

Very unlikely. We be more likely he will carry the shitty behaviour into the next relationship and think it’s everyone else with the problem

@Mysticguru possibly not.
he did tell me that his last gf dumped him the day after meeting his female ‘best friend ‘ and that his long term ex before that had hated her and vice versa . So maybe he just refuses to see what an issues their ‘friendship’ is but I doubt he’ll flaunt it and cancel plans with his next gf like he did with me. I think he’ll keep things closer to his chest but the same issue will still be there .

His guard will drop. Guaranteed.

@TheThingOnTheIce it helps I saw something that said just because they know how to change it doesn’t mean they will… like PP said these traits are ingrained

@Mysticguru Thank you x