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Advice please, is my husband cheating ?

43 replies

Somedaysoon92 · 13/10/2025 13:33

Hello

I received a call from a no caller Id on Friday, don’t normally answer but I’m Awaiting a call from the hospital and they have rang me previously with a withheld number.

So I pick up and this woman says I’m just letting you know your man cheats on you.
I did not know what to say, but my response was since when she said since forever. Then she hung up.

So I’m shaking after that call , I go and confront my husband and ask him why have I just received a call from a woman saying my man cheats on me.

His response wasn’t really what I expected, he’s denying he has done anything. Saying it could be anyone playing games.

We haven’t spoke since Friday and I quite frankly don’t know what to do, how would someone get my number even if he has cheated ?

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Original poster
Somedaysoon92 · 13/10/2025 14:07

lovecookiedough · 13/10/2025 13:59

I think if wrongly accused you would try anything to settle to other persons mind, showing phone bill, messages to prove you’ve had no secrets, his reaction of being angry would make me suspicious , it’s no your fault someone else has put this upon you, of course you want to know the truth. Having one overtime per week is enough to cheat, he might not be working, can he show you payslips?

Yes that’s what all this has made me think

Putting doubts in my head thinking when he said he’s been going to overtime he hasn’t.

But then I think realistically if he has been cheating how has this woman got my number. And like you all have said, surely she would have been more specific if it were true .

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Arlanymor · 13/10/2025 14:14

If it was a legitimate call she would have given some details - when you asked for more information she gave you a completely vague answer. Remember poison pen letters? Sounds like a similar scenario to me. I think it's total nonsense and if I had been your husband I would have been a mixture of bemused and cross. Why haven't you spoken since Friday?

Pebblepoppy · 13/10/2025 14:17

lovecookiedough · 13/10/2025 13:59

I think if wrongly accused you would try anything to settle to other persons mind, showing phone bill, messages to prove you’ve had no secrets, his reaction of being angry would make me suspicious , it’s no your fault someone else has put this upon you, of course you want to know the truth. Having one overtime per week is enough to cheat, he might not be working, can he show you payslips?

I don't think I would. Maybe eventually, I'd settle down and try to soothe, but if DP accused me of cheating because of an anonymous phone call, I think my initial response would be a mixture of hurt and anger that he could think such a thing.

3678194b · 13/10/2025 14:17

It could be an acquaintance of yours, who doesn't like you. It could be a wrong number. I don't know why someone would phone and not give more details.

I wouldn't know whether to believe the call or not, but it'd definitely raise my radar and I would be watching more carefully.

Sevenamcoffee · 13/10/2025 14:23

Was it an accent local to you?

Original poster
Somedaysoon92 · 13/10/2025 14:28

Sevenamcoffee · 13/10/2025 14:23

Was it an accent local to you?

I would say it was yes.

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OchreRaven · 13/10/2025 14:32

Assuming it’s true she could have got your number from his phone or it is someone who knows you. If she didn’t want to be identified she would give as little information as possible but based on what you have it could also be a random prank. I feel for you as it’s so unsettling.

Speak to your DH. Tell him you trust him but it has understandably shaken you and ask him how he would have felt if the roles were reversed. Tell him his reaction has upset you and his claims that he has enemies that would try to destroy his relationship is something you need further discussion on.

TucanPlay · 13/10/2025 14:32

I think this is a hoax call. A friend of mine had one exactly the same ( years ago). Some people just like to cause chaos. The first call was checking if a woman answered.

HoneyPie12 · 13/10/2025 14:32

If I got a call like this I would genuinely snort with laughter. If you don't find it bizarre and so far fetched it's unbelievable then maybe your gut is saying something you can't ignore. X

3678194b · 13/10/2025 14:35

Even if it was number withheld, I'm sure you can get the number from your telephone provider if you tell them it was a nuisance call.

MeganM3 · 13/10/2025 14:35

He said it could be his enemies?!
Who has enemies and why. That’s odd.
I wouldn’t rule out that it’s true, but you’ll have to bide your time as he certainly won’t tell you the truth.

People have affairs. It happens all the time. But she has not provided and evidence, so you’re in limbo.

ohyesido · 13/10/2025 14:36

Is your husband good looking and / or wealthy?

junebirthdaygirl · 13/10/2025 14:38

Is his industry one that calls for a night shift
. Its unusual to do just one night shift a week. But you know if that is suspicious or not

BauhausOfEliott · 13/10/2025 14:44

It was a prank call. Ignore.

silkypyjamas · 13/10/2025 15:01

ohyesido · 13/10/2025 14:36

Is your husband good looking and / or wealthy?

lol because that makes all the difference 🙄

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 13/10/2025 15:02

lovecookiedough · 13/10/2025 13:59

I think if wrongly accused you would try anything to settle to other persons mind, showing phone bill, messages to prove you’ve had no secrets, his reaction of being angry would make me suspicious , it’s no your fault someone else has put this upon you, of course you want to know the truth. Having one overtime per week is enough to cheat, he might not be working, can he show you payslips?

Really, I think I'd be phenomenally pissed off that DP didn't trust me to be honest. I doubt I'd be feeling particularly gracious about it.

ohyesido · 13/10/2025 15:04

@silkypyjamasI believe motive is relevant, yes

arcticpandas · 13/10/2025 15:10

Weird. Impossible to say if the caller was telling the truth or not. I would snoop around in my DH's phone etc. Noone here can tell you what's going on or not. It could even be someone who's angry with you and wants to get revenge this way. I would def snoop around and then leave it but keep my eyes open..

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