Did I overreact or would you be upset by this?

[LauraP23]

This is an ongoing issue I have with dp and yesterday it really got to me.

We were sat watching tv and dp picked up his phone. He was scrolling through the news when an article must have caught his eye. It was of a woman in a bikini that’s all I could see from it. I rolled my eyes to myself and carried on watching tv. A few minutes later he’s scrolling through a different article with another bikini picture. This went on for a good 10 minutes before I said ‘that news looks interesting’. He quickly turned his phone away and stared at the tv pretending to be watching the show.

We ended up having an argument and I’ve gone to bed feeling pretty shit. He claims it’s just the news and I’m over reacting. I asked how he would feel if every time he saw me on my phone I was looking at half naked men and he didn’t answer.

Would this bother you? It’s an ongoing issue which I usually try to ignore but it makes me feel rubbish sitting there with him whilst he’s looking at pictures of half naked women.

I wouldn’t be upset, but it would turn me off someone if it were a regular thing. I’d find it kind of juvenile and it would be enough to convince me they weren’t the right guy for me. I guess what I’m saying is that it would give me the ‘ick’, as they say…

Agree, he sounds like my teenaged son.

no it wouldn’t bother me because if anyone looked at my phone they might pass out, but it does bother you so it’s a problem if he doesn’t care.

In his defence though, beautiful women rare everywhere, why are you bothered by it so much? Do you go to the beach together ever?

I hope you can find a solution x

Maybe suggest he gets his ‘news’ from some outlet other than the Daily Mail?

What news feed is he watching? Because dp and I are both compete news junkies, and very rarely get images of half naked people on our feeds!

Ugh so childish. This would bother me if I were trying to connect with someone. But just watching tv, I don’t know. He doesn’t sound like a prince, that’s for sure.

To help you find something suitable to watch, totally harmless but very nice on the eyes, why don't you start thinking about taking up skipping again... a little motivational video for you :)

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/19rKcZrse3/

Sitting in the same room as you but spending his time ogling other women is just so totally disrespectful to you.

Yuck. 🤢

No he can do that in private not when he is sitting watching tv with you.

He is sitting in his living room with OP but seeking out pictures of other women.
That's not what a relationship should look like.
What has going to the beach got to do with him objectifying women and perving on them right infront of OP?

Or-and here’s a thought, not do it at all?

I would find it a complete turn off and a bit hurtful

I have always thought skipping was a very underrated sport! 😂

It really is isn’t it! It’s made me feel rubbish about myself. I would never dream of doing that.

OP, are you 23 years old, as your name suggests? No age is a good age to be spending time with partners who are disrespectful and juvenile, but it’s especially sad at a young age. The good news is, you can leave without a backward glance.

No I’m not 23, wish I was! We’ve been together years and for some reason this has only recently started to get to me.