Partner has been drinking again

[LoveActually]

I am so sad, I thought my partner was okay but he has been drinking last few days. Am 9 weeks pg and he does really want a baby. I have a really full-on career and his business is not making any money. I can't make excuses for him though. I just want him to stop or seek help. He tends to binge, goes weeks/months without and then gets blotto for a few days - thing is he hadn't done that since Christmas, so is it becasue I'm pregnant?
I know I can't do anything about it, am hoping by writing this I will not feel so stressed. Am lucky my mum and sister live up the road from us so am staying at my mum's tonight (been planned for ages).

Imagine he drinks when stressed - and babys are great news, but stressful too. Would he talk about it? to you or a counsellor?

My sympathies, it is very difficult.
Alcohol is a hard hard master.
Does he admit his drinking is a problem?
Has he ever seen anyone?

He won't actively seek help unless he realises that he needs to seek help. You cannot help him in that regard no matter how much you want to.

You need to remember the 3 c's-
you did not cause it
your cannot control it
you cannot cure it

Would suggest you talk with Al-anon as they are helpful to family members of problem drinkers. Will put up their link for you.

Would urge you to seek support for your own self:-

www.al-anonuk.org.uk

i have finally told my partner to go and this is real /he had the option of seeking help and won't alcohol and drugs went on a bender after work friday returned and woke me up 4am sunday he was supposed to look after our children sat as i work . we deserve better

You're so right you do deserve better
Do you mean it though? Will you really throw him out? Beware of giving false ultimatums - if you back down he'll carry on doing what he likes and next time it will be even harder. I know this - I gave my P so many ultimatums he ended up laughing in my face
I really know how you feel.