Feels like everyone is trying to break me

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For the past month or so I’ve been saddled with having to travel for work. One-off thing, cannot get out of it, and I am utterly exhausted from all the 3-4 hour drives between shabby hotels and home.

DH has now started giving me the cold shoulder out of the blue. He’s friendly over messages when I’m away, then cool and distant when I arrive home. He does have a form for this, and normally I just ignore until it blows over. But between the stress of work and travel and the tension of home I think this time I’m going to break. I dread each morning, keep catching myself staring off into space and losing track of time, and just generally cannot think of anything positive in my life.

Any practical tips for juggling a crazy workload with a moody DH? I’d run away to live in the woods, but I can’t face the drive.

Do you have any explanation for why your partner is behaving like this? This sounds horribly demoralising and depressing, when you're just doing your job. Do you have kids?

DH has always been prone to low moods and suddenly shutting people out on a whim, I’ve long suspected depression but he refuses to acknowledge it. Even during his moods he is practically supportive so I pick my battles.

Two young DC, I do the long drives so that I can be home in the evenings a couple times a week to take over the evening routine. We need both incomes so I can’t say no to the travel.