dating a man 10 years older

[lilipad]

ive been dating a man 10 years older than me for a few months, the problem is we live 60 miles apart and i see him once a week, his son lives with him full time and he runs his own business so is really busy, too busy to put any effort into our relationship it seems, although he does try to make time, any advice as to where to go from here please

it really is all work and no play, although he has suggested we go away together, he literally is always knackered

i definitely shouldnt be giving advice because i am having angst about the where are we bit too

but i am enjoying the doing lots of interesting things and spoending weekends together

one evening a wek would be too little for me

do you involve your kids in your relationship though, because that would make things easier

mine are grown up

he has now met them all and my grandson

only briefly tho

and luckily he is no kids and apparently no exs that i know anything of so we are free to do what we want

it makes a diference then doesnt it, i only get 1 night on my own a week and both his parents are gone so he doesnt have anyone close to hand

I'm also too busy to put massive 'effort' (and by effort, I mean time, as I think you do) into my relationship with dp. It doesn't mean he isn't the loveliest man I've ever met. It means I've seriously got more than him on my plate. But in the future things will change, I'll finish my degree and my dc's will grow up and become less dependent on me, so we can spend more time together then. I'm lucky that my dp is very understanding of my other commitments.

You sound like you like this man, lilipad, and he does do the romantic bit when you are together. You have other commitments too, such as your children, which means you can't travel back and forwards to him. He doesn't have any parents to look after his son whilst he travels to you (if I read your post right), so is it definite that he can't be bothered to put any effort in, or has he really just got his hands full?

thank you for that littlewoman, you've put in perspective, yes he is really busy and i guess its up to me to keep things going for a while and see how they pan out, by the way since i posted this hes booked a holiday for us all in august and we recently spent the weekend together, still me organising it all but its getting there