New neighbour - possible relationship

[Narl]

Hi all.

I have a new neighbour who has just moved into the area, she’s a single lady etc.
She didn’t really have much, I’ve helped her out a little bit, got her broadband setup, door bell camera, gave her a little assistance in getting a suite of furniture, I have called down a few times, she has made me tea on several occasions, last week she and I went out for coffee and a walk, just around a few shops etc .

I have met her mum and dad, got them apple tart, and a few buns here and there when they are visiting, her mum said today ‘he is a lovely lad, he will look after her well’.

Im 40, she is 32, so there is a bit of an age gap there. She and I would txt a little bit, it has never been nothing but respectful, have never mentioned going on a date or anything like that.

What are your thoughts, friend zoned?

For just once, can a man be friendly with a woman without thinking of getting in her knickers.

I'd let the friendship develop first at a slow rate and not be too pushy. It might turn out to be something else in time, or it might not. Only time will tell.

I’ve absolutely no desire for that, my post never once said anything about getting into her knickers. You are assuming this.

Don't take us for fools; the title of your thread asks if there is a possible relationship and you end it by asking if you're friend zoned.

Well you obviously did not read the entire thread, if you have nothing constructive to say do not comment!

Its mumsnet, you ask for opinions and you got it.
If you're too delicate to handle reading mine then you're definitely too delicate for a relationship.

Anywhere, another piece of advice which you asked for:
Don't shit where you eat or sleep. So no relationships with work colleagues or neighbours.

If you feel the chemistry and she does too, things will progress naturally.
Maybe carry on as friends initially and see if it develops.

Putting relationship potential to one side, consider how you will deal with this if you approach her for a date and she declines. Worse still, you start dating and it doesn't work out. You still have to see each other over the picket fence. It could be pretty awkward, so probably better to wait this one out without making any big moves on her. If an enduring relationship is to be formed, it will happen naturally over time. At the moment it seems none too clear if she sees you as a good friend who has helped her out with the move, or potential suitor.

@Narl

i think it's best if you just carry on as you are. Take things very gently & see what develops. If there's something in you'd like to do (band, show, autumn event etc see if she'd like to with you.

i don't think you've been 'friend zoned' at all, just that it'll be a flow burner.

best of luck

@OverlyFragrant 'I’ve absolutely no desire for that, my post never once said anything about getting into her knickers. You are assuming this'

youre an idiot!

read your own post back to yourself

Just remain friendly. If you ask her out she may well say yes because you’ve helped her out and she feels obliged.

Let her lead and just keep being the helpful neighbour in his 40s. Also, there’s no such thing as a ‘friend zone’- it’s perfectly fine for a woman you find attractive to not feel the same. It would just simply be, being friends. You are not entitled to our affection.

So... you want a friendship with her?

Great you've got one!

But why the angst about only being her friend then? Why ask about relationship potential?

She might not need or want to be 'looked after'.

She might just be grateful for the sap who is doing all these things for her.

She might think you're just a genuinely decent bloke who is looking out for her.

How disappointing for her when she realises you're just a Nice Guy.

It didn’t take long for Narl’s feelings to get a bit gnarled. 😬