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Assaulted and my good friends didn't give a fxxk!

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TickingKey46 · 10/10/2025 08:40

I just dont know how/what do to. I was assaulted by a work colleague at my home, nothing to serious but it occurred as I wouldn't allow her to drive while totally hammered. Police were involved, who carted her off (screaming and shouting at me). Pretty horrible situation and obviously a massive shock. Ps, we hadn't been drinking, she arrived drunk.
A very good friend of mine just didn't appear to care. I told her what had happened via text and her response was, "but shes a friend", "your not going to get her charged are you". She never asked if I was ok, or if I needed anything, that was it!!
I told a couple of other good friends who were both great, tbf I didn't need anything just wanted to off load, as I don't have a partner, just live with my two pre teens.
Im left not knowing quite what to do with our friendship! I've offered her a lot of support over the years, but didn't get as much as a "are you ok" from here.

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KillMeMounjaro · 10/10/2025 08:55

She’s not a good friend at all, but at least now you know this and can distance yourself from her.

Im sorry you went through this, and hope you’re OK.

TickingKey46 · 10/10/2025 09:24

Thank you and of course your right. Im just upset at her response. I'm now wondering if shes responded this way as there may well be an issue with her and drinking to. Im not sure how much she drinks but I know her child has issues with her drinking.
Yes im fine thank you, much more angry that this person thought it was ok to drive totally wasted than the assult.

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Scrope · 10/10/2025 09:41

The obvious reply to 'But she's a friend' is 'Yes, I know, which is why I wouldn't let her drive off from my house while visibly drunk -- she'd have been lucky to make it to the end of the road without causing a serious accident'?

TickingKey46 · 10/10/2025 10:38

Scope my friend was referring to me pressing charges for assult. Implying i shouldnt as shes a friend! No one has the right to come in to my house and assult me, my kids could have been there too!
Shes hardly contacted me since.

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GeorgeMichaelsCat · 10/10/2025 10:42

Does your friend differ to you in what you mean by 'assault'? That's the only reason I could think that she is being so blasé about it if she is a true friend.

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