How long?

[Justaregularnormalgal]

No judgment please. For anyone who has ever fallen for someone else. How long did it take to get over the emotional affair, and how long did it take to stop thinking about him?

It’s different for everyone. But one day you’ll realise you haven’t thought about them for days/weeks/months and will feel so much better.
Obviously you have to ensure there’s no contact for this to happen.

It's going to vary for everyone. I had an 8 month affair 6 years ago. I still think about him every day.

No judgement here. Nearly 2 years on and still think about him. Not in the same way as I did, it has got easier but I'm starting to wonder if I will ever get over it entirely. Sometimes it's just a fleeting thought, other times it's an overwhelming sadness that I can't seem to shake. I try to concentrate on everything else that's good in my life and it does pass, but I think I'll always miss him. It will be different for everyone.

Thank you for kind the replies. It's helpful to hear other's experience and I'm not alone in feeling like this.

same here

Emotional with no physical contact can be worse than a full sexual relationship. With an emotional affair you have the fantasy of how great it would have been, to get over. You also have nothing to think about why it didn't last that you would have had if it was a physical affair. Emotional affairs are all about how good it could be, with no reality on how it actually would be.
So I'm not sure if it ever actually ends. It just gets less intense. But it is always there as a fantasy when things are tough in your relationship or life. I think most of us have this fall back and we just have to manage it. It does get easier to manage. I say after 12 years😃

Thank you all again. It's not been that long since we ended. And it's starting to feel it will be while before I can shake this. Time will tell I suppose.

I ended my marriage because the emotional affair highlighted how bad it was. It wasn’t the grass is greener / fantasy, my husband was an abusive alcoholic and I’d normalised it.

Having had someone who treated me so well (as wrong as it was) has too shown me how bad my partner treats me. I've tried talking to him but nothing ever changes.

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