Hello! First time posting. I’ve been dating someone for about seven weeks. We are both in our early/mid-30s, and I really enjoy talking to him and spending time together. I think he feels the same about me. I don't often meet people I feel genuinely drawn to so the whole situation has taken me by surprise.
Because of chronic health stuff (details don't feel relevant so I will skip them), I don’t realistically see myself having children in the future. There’s a bit of nuance there in that it’s not absolutely impossible, and I still hold on to some hope about it, but it would likely involve complex biological, legal, probably financial hurdles, before even reaching the point of actually raising the child. I’ve made a kind of sad peace with the reality that it probably won't/can't/shouldn't happen.
He seems to lean the other way. I don't think he is completely and unequivocally desperate for children and it clearly isn't entirely non-negotiable yet (as we are still talking), but it seems to be something he’s always imagined for his future. When we talked about this recently, he said would try to do some serious thinking about it.
I can't help but wonder if I am being selfish even agreeing to this, i.e. asking him to consider whether this is something he could accept long-term. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is it fair to even put him in this position?