So there’s a group of school mums I always saw myself as part of, albeit on the edge of. I work and most of them are SAHM so I’ve always been aware they meet up without me & have forged closer friendships. Fine, that’s life. But I still thought I was a friend.
About a year ago a new fitness place opened in town. The group started going weekly for exercise followed by a coffee. I didn’t know this.
I recently joined this place too at the start of the summer. I go alone (which I’m fine with) but at the same time obviously it would be lovely to make it a more social thing.
Anyway, I mentioned in conversation that I had joined this place and it emerged at that point that the group go there together on Saturday mornings. At no point did anyone in the group suggest that I join them.
I have since actually started going Saturday morning too, because my DC at a hobby for 2 hours so it fits well. I’ve seen the group there a few times, but at no point have I been invited to join them, join their coffee group etc.
Sometimes I want to stay for a coffee after my exercise (I have 45 minutes before I need to collect my DC)..
Am I being weird to sit on my own? Obviously I wouldn’t blank them if I came face to face with them, but given I’ve never been asked to join their group (or added to their Gym&Coffee WhatsApp group) I don’t feel comfortable joining their table .
Just to add they are always friendly enough to me when I see them in other settings eg school run. I’m just unsure what to make if it!