Should I contact him?

[Notsurewhatnext223]

Bumped into a guy I’ve not seen for 10 years. Had a bit of a thing for a few months -soon after ex h and I split up. More a fwb than actual relationship . He wasn’t in the best place at the time and I was quite newly single,
We did briefly message a few years ago - I suggested meeting up but got no reply.
We swapped numbers after bumping into each other this time ( I suggested we could meet sometime) but not heard from him - it’s been 2 days. Should i message him or wait to see if he does?

No answer is the answer. Don’t waste your time on him

There's another reason to not message a man first, and that is because many women find themselves bearing the mental load of a relationship because of lackadaisical men.

If a man hasn't got the gumption to message a woman who has shown clear interest, he isn't going to be a fellow-driver in the relationship. You will end up with a passenger.

Really consider if that is what you want before sending a message.

I wouldn’t run after a man or anyone else for that matter but you have nothing to lose and seem to want to message him. I’d message once, but no more than that and brace yourself for ghosting / no response.
What do you want from it though? Fwb or a relationship? Because he doesn’t sound great to be honest.

Wow.

Are you really considering messaging him after he aready blew you out previously.

Tbf he may not have been single when she messaged him last time.

Op, I say this as someone who bit the bullet and sent a message after many years.... do it because you haven't got anything to lose (we are now happily in a relationship).

Message him OP! If we all wait around for someone else to make the first move we will never get anywhere!
Some people are good at this and some aren’t. It doesn’t make either better than the other. If you want to pursue him, message him!

Message him, life is too short and no one else in the world actually cares about you and any perceived embarrassment so do whatever you would like to do. If it doesn't happen, nothing lost and you can move on with no regrets..

He's not interested