Accepting life as the single friend

[Poolgirl66]

Hello,

I am struggling with the concept that I might be single forever.

im a single mum and just entered my 30s. I was with LO’s dad for many years. When we split I got back into the dating game and found it horrific. Have had my heart broken again and decided I just cannot be bothered to date for a while.

i value my own time as a single mum but i must admit after a while on my own I do get lonely and miss having affection and that relationship bond. I love love, and I am a hopeless romantic.

i do have a handful of great friends but theyre all in relationships. I do see them but its wholesome days out or nights at each others homes, so not opportunities for me to meet someone. I won’t go back to online dating any time soon. So realistically I don’t even know how I would meet someone even if I wanted to.

I think I am just trying to establish from other people, how do I accept that I might never find a relationship and how do I get used to being on my own? What hobbies do people do and how do you fill your spare time as a single mum? How do I make new friends and enjoy life and just let go of always wanting a relationship?

Can you get yourself out to some music festivals? It's a great way to meet people. Find a small independent festival with the sort of music you enjoy, that narrows it down to people with similar tastes. Lots of mingling, and you can lose yourself in the crowd if you want to.

Right there with you op.

I've been single for six years now. Since ex husband up and left. Not a sniff of romance since. I'm 46 and I genuinely think this might be it for me.

You're a lot younger than me though so don't lose hope yet. I'm a lone parent so don't really have any spare time to myself.

What do you enjoy doing in your spare time.

You need to make more friends that’s what I’ve had to do

I’m 35. Single 7 years. I don’t crave a relationship though, I just keep in mind none of the relationships of people I know in them resemble anything I would want, and my own 2 weren’t great either 😅 so it isn’t difficult for me to have that view.