Dating dilemma

[PrettyPleaseXo]

I’ve been on two dates with a guy (last night was the second date). Between dates we don’t text and he’s openly said he’s a terrible texter but both dates have had amazing chemistry and we ended up sleeping together last night and he stayed over. When he left this morning lots of cuddles and kisses etc
now he’s text today but it was about not knowing where the condom was and wanting to make sure it hadn’t slid off inside me and we spoke but he didn’t initiate a 3rd date and laugh emojid my last message
Do I leave the ball in his court now? At what point do I message and say okay I feel there’s a lack of interest have a good life and thanks for the dates as I’m the sort of person who needs closure

So two dates
you shagged him last night and he stayed over and left this morning
you’re not happy with his contact a few hours and considering “ending it” (if being on 2 dates constitutes ending it)

Doesnt exactly bode well for the future op

*it was about not knowing where the condom was and wanting to make sure it hadn’t slid off inside me *I imagine he’s petrified

He sounds...well, anyway...

Give him a few days at least.
Maybe text him a funny meme or two but don't push anything.

If he hasn't arranged the date by next Sunday night you can text him with the 'Guess that's that ran it's course then. All the best and cheerio' sorta text.

Thanks lovelies

As somebody who also doesn't do texts

Please do not send a funny meme or two, that would put me right off....
Give him a day or two then see what happens.
If you want another date, why not just say so?

I was worried it was too soon

We're going to have to disagree then. As an avid non texter. I don't mind if they drop me a mid week text or a funny meme. I just don't want to have to have conversations on my phone.

And after recent events he's going to want to feel she is keeping things light. Men don't like to think you are desperate. They prefer the chase. So a funny meme in a few days, could be useful. Ideally something relevant to your conversations. Probably not a condom joke though xD

Otherwise, light and breezy chat only.

Doesn't have to be a meme, a news story or something relevant to your conversations is fine. Something to keep things light. Ideally something funny.

What happened to the condom?

This is a mystery it’s not inside me and I can’t find it anywhere. Worst comes to worst I’ll be going to the GP in the morning if I can’t find it for them to look

If you want to see him again, suggest a day and activity. If he’s someone who is put off by you showing an interest, then he’s not for you. (I say this as someone who wasted a lot of time over-thinking.)

Equally, if you’re not feeling it and you need something different than this, then it’s fine to end things.

Relationships should add joy to your life, not worry.

Shit
so in his shoes, I’d be bloody petrified and I wouldn’t be suggesting a third date because my mind would be preoccupied with what might be coming down the lane

So let me get this right.

There have only been 2 dates.

You slept with him on the 2nd date.

He's told you he's a terrible texter?

What were your dates like? Because so far, it seems like he's a low effort kind of guy, and now he's got a shag, he'll either not be in touch, or if he is, he will be in touch with you on his terms, when he wants to get his leg over again.......hence he is already reducing your expectations and setting the bar low by saying he's a terrible texter.

See how that works?

You’ve missed fact there is a missing condom

How does he not know whether or not the condom was still on after he pulled out??? He would know immediately, it was either there or it wasn't. I wouldn't trust him.

Are you certain he even put one on? Did you see him do it?

Frankly this is more concerning than anything else.

Exactly

and he contacted the op, which indicates he is concerned about it

Op you have children?

Sounds like he’ll be hardwork, terrible texter, so you’ll be the one chasing him then, or he’ll get in touch when he’s horny. Think I’d just leave it.

Surely you would know...I mean, stuff would be ..leaking out of you. It's obvious when there's been a condom mishap/they've not worn one.

Are you sure he used one?

Does he need them in a smaller size?

Have you got to the bottom of “The Missing Condom”? (Could be a Nancy Drew book title 😆)

I found the missing condom 🤣🤣

And you updated him?

I did and this doesn’t scream I want a 3rd date does it 🤣

Sorry? Where in that do you tell him?

either way - no, doesn’t sound promising