What are your thoughts on this?

[HmmSoWhatDoYouThink]

I don't want to give too many details. I just wondered what your thoughts would be on this exchange.

Her: Oh I'm not sure I have anything suitable to wear.

Him: Why don't you wear that dress you wore before. You looked really good in that

Her: Dress I wore before?

Him: Yes. That black dress you wore for (some details were given but I'm not including them here). You looked really good in it.

Her: I remember! Wow, I can't believe you remembered that. It was nearly three years ago!

Him: Well, you looked really good in it.

Absolutely insane that they would say about that dress from 3 years ago. If it was to you (wife/partner) then totally commendable but I'm sorry. I wouldn't remember what i wore last week nor what my partner wore. If i looked good I would love that and they remembered xx

Is he the sort of man that has many female friends and often talks about who's wearing what?

I can see now that my post was confusing without context. I'm sorry about that.

It would obviously be a fairly dull and neutral exchange between a husband and wife but I didn't want people to automatically jump to he fancies her and hoped it didn't necessarily mean that.

Could it just be that he was being nice to her and paying her a compliment?

No. Not at all..

Unless he has form for remembering these kind of tiny details from three years ago about many people, no. He's clearly got a strong memory of her in that dress. Trust your instincts, I'm sorry.

I think you are in a bit of denial mode. For a male to have such a recollection of another woman’s dress.
If I were you I would not say nothing to him but start to snoop a bit …. I would be looking at who he’s texting an d when, if they go to lunch together, if there are any nights away from home, looking to see if there are condoms or anything sex related that your husband has stored that isn’t used with you. I get how you are feeling but you’ve posted as you know in your gut
that something is a bit off …

This is unacceptable, @HmmSoWhatDoYouThink. Your H is attracted to this woman and was letting her know. It was an intimate moment between them and highly disrespectful to you. They’re either already in an illicit relationship or he wants to be.

What is the context of their friendship?
Is she single?
Do you know if they meet up 1:1 or message each other?

I would be very unsettled by that exchange. I’d be getting to the bottom of it, and that includes investigating his phone for a week or so before confronting him. Don’t sweep this, @HmmSoWhatDoYouThink.

Even if he fancies her OR thought she looked really nice in that dress, so remembered it…so what? Finding other people attractive isn’t a crime.

I’d feel a bit uncomfortable in over hearing that.

I think so yes.

I think this is a complete over reaction unless there are other factors concerning OP. 'An intimate moment' 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Well he obviously hasn't seen her wearing anything that she looked really good in during the intervening 3 years, so I wouldn't be thinking much of it!

Good grief. When we enter into a monogamous relationship, we don't glue our eyelids shut or neuter ourselves so that we can never find another human being attractive again!

Yes he noticed what your friend was wearing, yes he's obviously remembered it because he thought she looked attractive on that occasion. He's a human being with a normal sex drive.

For some posters to assume that means he's already or trying to have an affair with her, to the extent of advising you to read his private messages... Words fail me.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation Thank you for saying, far more eloquently than I, what I wanted to say.