Its been two weeks since I stopped speaking to my partner. Together 5 years but we don't live together due to my son having Aspergers and the trial we tried out was a disaster. My son wasn't happy with him living with us and I felt like piggy in the middle trying to keep two people happy. My son always comes first. Anyway, it's been 5 years of ups and downs. The downs have been mainly due to his alcohol intake in the evenings. Rows have started and he can be verbally nasty sometimes. This is what happened two weeks ago and I got sick of it. We split up for three months earlier this year and he persuaded me to go back saying he would cut back on alcohol etc etc. The pressure has started again. He texted and said he hadn't had a drink in two weeks and we need to talk. He lives very close by which is unfortunate. I said it was just the same old same old. I think my feelings have changed due to the spitefulness at times. On drink he would slag of my ex husband and call him ugly etc. Very iimmature. He does have some good qualities and I feel guilty blocking him like I am ghosting him or behaving like a narcissist. Has anyone else been in this situation? Am I being too soft? Should I just point blank tell him it is over and to hell with hurting him? I moved nearly two years ago to be nearby him with all these promises of how great it would be. Sometimes I think i never want a msn again in my life and I'm 50.