One of my friends M20 I have known for a few months now at uni just asked me out F20. have had some feeling for this person and we were at a uni party, really drunk and kissed and he told me he really likes me. I am conflicted over this because I am not 100% sure of my feelings and that felt more rushed than I expected. I know I do have some feelings and we have been talking for a while but what holds me back is I am sort of hung up over my ex(M21) who graduated over the summer. On one hand I am like I should be open to new connection and move on, with someone who can actually make time for me and be there.
I am single, but me and my ex broke up because he wanted to focus on his career and long distance as he moved back to India indefinitely but I am in the UK. I dropped him at the airport when he left, and we still obviously have feelings. He did express before leaving that he did not want me waiting on him but when he got his career stuff back together he would want to get back together though that would be like 5 years and he would visit me in between the years. He called me the other week and he told me he will be back in december for graduation and be here for like 2 months and he might move back to the UK for work. Part of me wants to wait for him, but I don't know if I am holding onto an idea of him that is of the past.
Apart from this my ex has in the past ghosted me for 3,4 weeks at a time. He has also never been consistent with his promises where if he even changed his mind like multiple times in a month over the summer where he was indecisive about staying in the UK or moving back. I don't know if I should put life on hold for someone who is indicessive and not there for me versus what is in front of me right now.