I’m really struggling and husband is not doing his fair share

[Witsend40]

Hey, in a lull again this morning, exhausted, feel like I could sleep for a week.
Its our sons birthday and yet again my husband has made me feel like sht. I feel like sht quite a lot as he’s always moaning and putting pressure on me and out household, moaning about how he thinks things should be etc. In particular around the kids birthdays he’s always causing problems, it’s like he can’t stand not being centre of attention, almost like a little boy. I’m sick of his behaviour. We’ve got a lot of pressures in life, just to keep things going, like working, financial pressures, life pressures and he wonders why I don’t want to be intimate with him and have sex etc because I’m bloody knackered! I’m not even caring for myself and my own needs properly, never mind his! I’ve had enough. I’ve don’t really have anyone to talk to as I don’t have any friends, I literally just work 4 days a week, manage the house, the kids, the finances etc. I feel like I have no life and I’m just a skivvy and am expected to do things when he wants me to. I’m desperate, confused, fed up, angry, lost. 😞

Are you at the point where you can start to think about leaving?
Honestly, I think your life will become easier once your biggest zource of frustration and resentment isn't constantly in your life anymore.

He sounds horrible and no good for you at all.
You would be better off without him wouldn't you.

@Witsend40 what does he do to ensure things are how he thinks they ‘should be’? And what sort of things is he moaning about?How old are your dc?
As to you feeling exhausted, have you checked you’re not anaemic, is your health okay? Or is it moaning Michael making you feel exhausted and depressed?

Can you give specific examples?

Do you get the same amount of leisure time as he does? If not, why not?

I mean if he's a narcissist who is jealous of his own little boy then that's the biggest issue. You can't raise a little one seeing that and thinking it must be normal and ok because mum puts up with it. Your boy will also start to treat you how he sees his father treat you. And it will be his model for how he can treat others in future. Save your little boy from a life of misery. And save yourself. Get out and make it very clear we do not stay with shitty people. Teach him those healthy boundaries.

Let's face it, it'll probably not be any more tiring single than it is with this twat for a partner.