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Marriage should I leave

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Suzepink · 03/10/2025 08:41

I have been married for almost 20 years and through that time me and husband have had problems like any other couple but we have always worked through it, we have 2 beautiful children 8 and 14 who we both adore, but the last couple of years have become tough, we have both had depression and having treatment for but my husband doesn't want to anything any more I suggest a day out for us all, oh no let's stay at home, so I end up taking kids out on my own... he recently became really secretive with his phone and eventually I found dirty pictures on his phone of a girl he is facebook friends with with messages but all deleted so I'll never know what they said, then he lost his job for "not fitting in" he said he said the manager was looking for a way to get rid of him, but he managed to get another job... he lies about little things like he has walked the dogs when he clearly hasn't... and now yet again he has lost his job because the manager is out to get him... I'm at the end of my teather he is constantly angry at home and barely helps with house work... I need advice of course I love him , but are we just not good together, I don't want my children suffering... thanks for reading

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IsawwhatIsaw · 03/10/2025 08:52

So he lies, can’t hold a job down and may be/ has cheated on you.
id be looking at getting legal advice as a first step

pilates · 03/10/2025 08:55

From what you have described, your relationship is dead. Sorry, but you need to end this asap.

Girlmom35 · 03/10/2025 09:46

I think you already know that it's time to close this chapter. You're not happy with him and he's unwilling to make changes, so that's it then.
First step is knowing your rights and options. Get legal advice. Start working on a plan.

Farside99 · 03/10/2025 16:02

I would think about leaving. My marriage with my wife was dead for years and I regret that both of us never had the courage to do anything about it

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