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Should I walk away

11 replies

SassyGemini · 02/10/2025 19:15

My boyfriend & I have been together 2 & half years, we've lived together for a year at My Mothers house, she is disabled & needs help. My Mother has certain household rules, such as a Curfew(Sun-Thurs in by 10pm, Fri & Sat in by 12am), yet My boyfriend is constantly breaking the curfew rule, he stays out all hours of the night & doesn't come home at all, sometimes 2-3 nights at a time, he will tell Me one thing thing do another, for example: He received his SSI check Oct 1st, left the house 10/1/2025 at midnight, said "I'll be right back", did not see or hear from him until 6 hours later, apparently his ride stranded him at the Casino, He promised Me "I'll cash app $50 to you so you can go have a Girls Night Out", He promised to pay My Mother $300 for rent! He finally came home 10/2/2025 at 11:30am, with NO Money except $20, said he bought 2 broke down Mopeds, and slept for 2 hours! His entire SSI check is gone, he told me he was doing work for one lady, yet a different lady brought me his phone he left in her car! Now, He has No Money for rent, we were supposed to move in to Our Own place Oct 1st, now were not. I think he's lying to Me & hiding something, I'm Very Much in love with him, but I'm tired of his betrayal & disappearing acts, WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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Toooldtopretend · 02/10/2025 19:18

Do you really need to ask?

sorry but he has no respect for you and is just taking you for a free ride. Get shut.

Sassylovesbooks · 02/10/2025 19:21

Of course your boyfriend is lying to you! He's spending his money at casinos and on goodness knows what else. Why on earth are you wasting your life away with this man? Don't move in with him. You will be the one paying all the bills, and all you'll get from him is empty promises. I don't know how old you both are, but he's immature and irresponsible. Dump him, you can do better.

Pinkladyapplepie · 02/10/2025 19:21

Yes kick him out.You and your mum deserve more.

mondaytosunday · 02/10/2025 19:22

Break up with him. Do you think he’ll somehow change? While the curfew your mother has set is ridiculous, he is treating you terribly; lying, gambling, possibly cheating. Get rid of him.

user2848502016 · 02/10/2025 21:00

A curfew for 2 adults is ridiculous but yes you should end things with your boyfriend

Lighteningstrikes · 02/10/2025 22:14

I wouldn’t walk, I would run.

He’s a sneaky lying chaotic mess.

And no you won’t change him.

Happygolucky314 · 02/10/2025 22:19

How old are you 15? A curfew? I wouldn’t want to live by that either as an adult

AttilaTheMeerkat · 02/10/2025 22:36

What is there to love about this man?. He’s both a liar and a cheat and in addition he thinks you have doormat written on your forehead. He has no respect for you whatsoever.

Your mother’s curfew is ridiculous. Move out and live by yourself.

Endofyear · 02/10/2025 22:56

Just kick him out. He sounds like a complete waste of space.

TY78910 · 02/10/2025 23:09

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? A curfew sounds extreme, although if someone was taking the piss like that I might consider imposing them.

Guessing SSI is like our benefits? Girl, this man gambles away benefits you need to steer veryyyyyyy clear of him. You can do a lot better. Please don’t entertain this.

BettyTurpinPies · 02/10/2025 23:24

I'm Very Much in love with him You only think you are. He's not in love with you, that's for sure.

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