My DH of 20+ years constantly asks questions or gives instructions, to the point I’m exhausted with responding, anxious about saying no (but have got much better about doing this, but still fear his reaction). Eg throughout the day, constantly asking if I want a coffee (expects me to agree each time) what time do I want to eat, what do I want to eat, what am I doing next, insisting on going everywhere with me, and if sharing a task like gardening, telling me how to do what I’m doing, and what I should do next and repeating these several times if I disagree; suggesting what I like/don’t like, suggesting what clothes I should buy, etc etc. The combination of constant questions, suggestions and directions have confused me for years because they imply choice and can appear to be helpful but the overall impact is he’s expecting me to comply with the agenda he’s relentlessly driving day after day. He’s also accused me of not making any suggestions as his defence for doing so all the time, when I’ve challenged him about it, but in reality he’s mostly overruled me or sulked if I’ve tried to do so. In isolation each interaction seems harmless. It’s taken years for me to identify the impact on me, as it’s been virtually impossible to pinpoint what’s not ok. I’m exhausted and have spent years trying to explain this to him. Does anyone else have experience or advice on this and can it ever improve? Thank you.