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How would you feel...

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searching123 · 30/09/2025 16:03

If you and your partner were at dinner in a restaurant and you started having an argument, and your partner said, ‘You’re embarrassing me,’ how would you feel?

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Bringitonicancope · 30/09/2025 22:13

Given your update OP it's no wonder you got upset.
And obviously him telling you that you were embarrassing him was him trying to silence you because he didn't want to hear what you had to say.

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searching123 · 02/10/2025 13:09

Another evening out - he took me to the most amazing romantic restaurant.. the conversation quickly
moved on to issues that he's not happy with - then it moved on to my ex who he started calling selfish and saying he never does anything for his son.. doesn't care about him.. I did start to defend him as I know my ex does do everything he can for his son and cares about him very much.. at the same time saying we should drop it and talk about something else as I could feel the conversation taking a turn.. he refuses to drop it and we left the restaurant. I tried to thank him for the dinner on the way home and he scoffed.. He hasn't really spoken to me since - slept in the attic and ignored my attempts to apologise and get him to come and sleep in the bedroom..

maybe I shouldn't have stuck up for my ex.. but at the same time it's hard to sit there and hear you partner unfairly bash your ex who is actually just a nice guy..

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rainbowstardrops · 02/10/2025 13:15

He sounds like a dick

Bananalanacake · 02/10/2025 13:24

Why doesn't he want you to go back to work is he worried he'll have to help out in the house or is he not happy you might have a life and make some friends apart from him.

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searching123 · 02/10/2025 13:29

@Bananalanacake his reasoning was me working is not cost effective, that he has been paying for everything for the last two years and even when I was working in my job before that he was still paying for things for me.. he sais I can't afford to pay for childcare and our lifestyle..

He sais that I'm selfish and just only think about what I want..

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UpDownAllAround1 · 02/10/2025 13:34

What do you want from this thread OP? You know that people are going to say he is a dick and you should dump him - ideally in a restuarant

UpDownAllAround1 · 02/10/2025 13:37

However you seem to want to start a potential argument again in public. Take responsibility

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searching123 · 02/10/2025 13:41

No I didn't bring it up - he kept bringing it up and I was trying to change the conversation

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