Is all the Instagram lovey dovey couples real?!

[Shleepymummy]

Not talking about 21 year olds all over each other. Just seeing lots of married/long term couples, 30s, with kids(!) where the woman is filming herself making lunch, cleaning reel, talking reel about something and the husband comes in and is all over her. And then same to him back. Family day out reels and the man is all over the woman and she’s all happy about it. This is really lovely but is this where most married /long term couples sit?!
Can’t remember the last time my husband gave me affection like that. Not that he’s being nasty, we get on and busy with young family life, but he’s not grabbing my bum and kissing me before work, he’s not hugging me on family days out.
Is this social media depiction a true representation of real couples? If so I’ll have a chat about more effort with affection. If it’s not, I’ll stop scrolling insta so much! Would love to hear from real couples, young kids, who aren’t filming for social media.

It's like a day out, you take snaps of the fun bits and don't post the traumas, crying, arguments lol 😆

I chuckled at this. Legit funny. Like it!

Those videos are staged. Its not spontaneous they tell each other where to go what to do, its a job.

In more "realistic" terms i had a friend who was always posting her perfect life, days out with her H and dc, lots of fun activities at home and outdoors etc it was a constant stream of look how amazing in love and perfect our family is. She was even the type to tell you in person how amazing and perfect their life together was, she left him for another man.

Delete insta, or unfollow those accounts. Tell your dh you need more love/affection and focus on your reality!

Well the reality is she set her camera and tripod up in the middle of the kitchen, he comes in, see the set up and walks past it to kiss her, knowing she is filming a video.. yep definitely for the camera.
I was watching a Youtube video the other day and cringed when the husband did that.

Have you ever been like that as a couple? If you were and you both miss it then focus on getting it back. It’s good for your kids to see a caring loving relationship. We’ve got young kids, we hug loads, always kiss hi and bye, hold hands when we’re out and about. We’re not on insta!

If you think anything on the gram is real you need to give your head a wobble. Comparison is the thief of joy. If they have to set up a fake scenario where they're being lovey dovey you can almost guarantee it's because it's not happening in their real life.

DH’s friends all complain that their wives don’t. No hugs, no affectionate words, nothing like that at all

This is because their wives settled for them. A lot of women do this- the man is basically a vessel to achieve the wedding, family and house that the woman dreams of- they don't even have to (and usually dont) really fancy him, but he's stable and reliable and, well, she's desperate for a family. These women are affectionate at first (much like men being affectionate to get sex, or love bombing to get into a woman's home) but after all of that is achieved and locked down/ticked off (the wedding, the house, the babies and the money) the bloke is now just someone they live with, and is now surplus to requirements apart from his income/finances (and an extra pair of hands around the house/with the kids if she needs it).....

It may be real. It may not be. Who knows. But if me and my dh were on camera you’d see that we never argue and are always cuddling and touching each other. We respect and love each other enormously and genuinely enjoy being together and being with our children. But you’d never see us on camera as we are private and our life and joy is just for us.

Sorry… anyone who thinks anything posted on Instagram (or any social media platforms) is ‘real life’ is delusional.