I have been seeingguy for 3 years. We are both early 60’s and do not live together.
Looking back he has never liked me going out with friends, which is not often. He sulks and I don’t hear from him for days.
We have both been dealing with matters, I had to sell my matrimonial home and buy another property. He has sold his but has lived with his daughter since, which is now 4 years. He stays at my house most weekends.
We were both single when we met.
Recently he has got a lot worse. We recently got back from holiday and I have to admit on this holiday he was hard work. I found him very negative, whatever I said he was defensive and always tired (He refuses to go to the doctors). He was very depressing. Its now been 6 weeks since we got back from holiday and I haven’t seen him. Message to say he was having an episode of depression and needed to be alone for now which I understood and I gave him the time he needed. I did touch base a few times to see how he was but very rarely did I get a response. His latest response was ‘he was getting there’. He is at work and he does go on social media, so I can’t understand why he deliberately ignores my messages. I even asked if he wanted to call at mine for a coffee after work, but again no response.
After 6 weeks and hardly any communication from him (he also ignores my phone calls, all 2 of them!!) I am now at the stage where I need to break ties.
I had to do this via text as he ignored my call and I can’t go to his daughter’s house to talk as no privacy. I sent a nice message and explained my feelings also count and that he makes me feel rejected and hurt. I have tried to get the relationship back on track but getting nothing back, so sadly its time to go our separate ways. I sent this 2 days ago, he has read it but not replied.
I know I have done the right thing for me but I now feel guilty on him. Should I?