Why do Men...

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...Ask you if you're ok/in a mood?

When if you say no I'm not ok really, they go defensive?

The only right answer is no answer or to say youre fine, isnt it? Because if you tell them there's an issue (regardless of if they've caused it or not) it will end up being your fault that they feel bad about something.

For context its my birthday today, I've just made myself a roast dinner. It was husbands birthday a few days ago and I took him for a meal. I'm not moody I'm just quite bored and keeping my head down, doing my own thing.

Are you ok? Is the most annoying question when you know the required answer is 'yes' regardless. Anyone else feel this?

Men ? All men?
or your man ?

I think an anxious person does it regardless of gender especially if they have had past experiences of moody people .

The only right answer is no answer or to say youre fine, isnt it?

No.* *

Because if you tell them there's an issue (regardless of if they've caused it or not) it will end up being your fault that they feel bad about something.

Not in my relationship, no.

This isn't a man problem, it's a twattish man problem.

My man, on this occasion and anecdotally some of my friends husbands as well I guess.

If anxiety is the problem why do they go in a mood if you say actually no, I'm not ok?

Its seems a destructive and abusive way of coping with anxiety.

Hes largely not twattish tbf but as im largely upbeat as a person when I have an off day he doesn't handle it like what could I have done differently that may have caused a dip in mood more asks if im ok to challenge me to bring up what he knows full well he could have done so he can negatively deflect it (hes never yet surprised me by not doing this).

I just find it predictable and annoying.