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Stuck thinking about someone

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moonlight67 · 28/09/2025 02:02

I saw a guy on a dating site and I sent him a message, but he hasn’t been online for several days. (8 days) I keep checking every hour to see if he’s active, and ever since I saw him, I can’t stop thinking about him. Honestly, it feels like my mind is completely stuck on him, and I can’t focus on anything else.

I’m even worried that maybe something happened to him, or that he met another girl. Thinking about this makes me feel upset and restless.

I really don’t know if I should wait patiently or try to move on. Has anyone been in a situation like this before? How did you handle it?

Is it normal to feel this way? Because I truly feel like I already love him, and I’m scared he might never come back online again.

Any advice, tips, or personal experiences would mean a lot.

Thank you 🌸

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moonlight67 · 28/09/2025 15:14

Sodthesystem · 28/09/2025 14:23

That is odd!

But then, hormones are funny things.
Could you be perimenopausal?

Or maybe you've just been single a while so are romanticising.

Maybe he reminds you of your fave actor?
Or a childhood crush?

Just remember lust is not love. It's just hormones.

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No, this has absolutely nothing to do with hormones, and I’m not in a pre-menopausal age I’m younger he's kind of older I don’t have any “daddy issues” and I don’t have a favorite actor or need to feed such nonsense. He doesn’t resemble anyone I like; he’s completely average. It has nothing to do with a childhood crush or anything like that either.
What I feel is real and cannot be reduced to silly excuses like “hormones” or romantic fantasies. Maybe you just don’t understand what pure, genuine love feels like to say something like that.

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notatinydancer · 28/09/2025 15:18

moonlight67 · 28/09/2025 15:14

No, this has absolutely nothing to do with hormones, and I’m not in a pre-menopausal age I’m younger he's kind of older I don’t have any “daddy issues” and I don’t have a favorite actor or need to feed such nonsense. He doesn’t resemble anyone I like; he’s completely average. It has nothing to do with a childhood crush or anything like that either.
What I feel is real and cannot be reduced to silly excuses like “hormones” or romantic fantasies. Maybe you just don’t understand what pure, genuine love feels like to say something like that.

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You’re not in love , you have never met him. Are you 12?

Peoplepleaserincrisis · 28/09/2025 15:20

moonlight67 · 28/09/2025 15:14

No, this has absolutely nothing to do with hormones, and I’m not in a pre-menopausal age I’m younger he's kind of older I don’t have any “daddy issues” and I don’t have a favorite actor or need to feed such nonsense. He doesn’t resemble anyone I like; he’s completely average. It has nothing to do with a childhood crush or anything like that either.
What I feel is real and cannot be reduced to silly excuses like “hormones” or romantic fantasies. Maybe you just don’t understand what pure, genuine love feels like to say something like that.

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Wow, so rude, Sodthesystems suggestions were perfectly reasonable . How is this "pure, genuine love" you don't even know the bloke!

Elektra1 · 28/09/2025 15:20

You saw a guy’s profile, sent him a message, and 8 days later he hasn’t replied and you can’t stop thinking about him? You know nothing about this person! Any thoughts you have about him are entirely made up of your own imaginings about what sort of person he might be. Not who he actually is. After over a week, if he hasn’t replied, he’s not interested. Honestly I think you sound quite vulnerable and OLD is not a place for the vulnerable.

fatphalange · 28/09/2025 15:21

No that’s not normal, to answer your question.

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