Not sure if its normal or how to deal with as makes me feel kind of sad. For context i am 31 no kids, my parents are divorced have been for 10 years or so. My dad is a alcoholic who had no regard for anyone feelings hes very isolated, recently my grandmother passed away instead of going to the hospital to be with her he spent his time at the pub getting drunk. He only has me now and i feel like i have to constantly parent him but get nothing in return, he brings nothing to my life but stress and misery and i still feel some sort of responsibility.
My mother equally as difficult, i recently went on holiday but she will not acknowledge the fact that i am on holiday, wont ask anything about it and sometimes dosnt know where we are going. I told her we are getting a new sofa as it was a topic of conversation, she replies with such things as oh must be nice or ignores completely anything ive said. Sort of a common theme with everything. But will use me as free therapy.
My partner seems to think both of them create me to be unhappy as i feel like i cant celebrate or vent but in return i feel like i have to be there for them all the time with no support in return. Over the years they have both caused me to have low self esteem and high stress. Is my feelings valid? Or should i suck it up!