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I really like this girl but I don't know if I messed everything up.

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acxc12 · 27/09/2025 04:50

There was this girl last semester who I worked with at a service desk for co-op, and she was so gorgeous, and I would talk to her every day about stuff like how her day was, once I even got her a redbull cuz they had a 2 for 1. She used to smile every time I talked to her, and if I asked her something, like once I asked why she came late and she told me a whole story about what happened, and I loved that so much I almost died. But anyway one day I decided to ask for her snap, she was looking at her phone when I asked and she nodded, but then she got busy with customers and it hit 3 PM so I just left. Then after the weekend, I waited till she wasn't busy, then asked again, this time she was looking right at me the whole time, she said yes, and when I turned around to grab my phone she kinda rolled her eyes and that for some reason made me walk away to my side of the desk and stay there the rest of the day. She got busy again, it hit 3 PM and I went home.

Anyway after this she started working at the other desk, perpendicular to where I was, I don't know if that was cuz of me, but I remember before I heard my manager tell her that he's gonna teach her how things work over there. So idk if she started avoiding me or what but I felt really bad so one day I wrote a fucking note saying "Sorry about tuesday". It also felt like she talked to me less, however I would usually initiate a conversation, and I also didn't say a single word to her the rest of the semester out of fear so I don't know if that's why. I made her smile a few times after, and sometimes if she saw me stuck on something she'd come help me, idk how to describe it right. Maybe I'm just grasping at straws to cope.

Now I'm back working at the same place, just in the auto shop this time, the other day I was on the floor taking off lug nuts, and I look up and I see a silhouette, and I couldn't tell if it was her, but she was looking in my direction and smiling. I didn't know she still worked here, but it turns out she comes in at 3, and I'm there till 5.

She was on my mind all day the entire summer, I couldn't sleep right for 2 months because all I thought about was how I fucked up so badly. Did she think I was so unappealing that she just started to avoid me? Or did I fuck up by walking away to get my phone and then just not coming back? She's so gorgeous, my heart stops every time I see her, but I don't know if I should still try to talk to her, or get her number, and stuff like that. What should I do?

OP posts:
Cotswoldmama · 27/09/2025 07:14

It's hard to say whether she likes you in that way or not. I think the only way you know is if you ask her. It sounds like you only see her at work so she might just literally see you as a work colleague.
You could see if she was open to meeting up out of work.

Original poster
acxc12 · 27/09/2025 07:26

Cotswoldmama · 27/09/2025 07:14

It's hard to say whether she likes you in that way or not. I think the only way you know is if you ask her. It sounds like you only see her at work so she might just literally see you as a work colleague.
You could see if she was open to meeting up out of work.

I really wanna talk to her, but some people tell me that it's creepy or weird, and some people tell me to go talk to her, ask for her number, and I really don't know what's the best thing to do here.

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JillyGiraffe · 27/09/2025 07:55

If you decide to ask for her Snap or phone number and don’t get it for a third time, you need to move on. But still be polite and friendly. Try not to overthink things too much.

SparklyCardigan · 27/09/2025 07:58

Do nothing. Leave the poor woman alone.

RaspberryFeet · 27/09/2025 08:07

Cotswoldmama · 27/09/2025 07:14

It's hard to say whether she likes you in that way or not. I think the only way you know is if you ask her. It sounds like you only see her at work so she might just literally see you as a work colleague.
You could see if she was open to meeting up out of work.

I don’t think it’s hard to say at all. She just sees the op as a colleague who she talks to at work. If you ask for someone’s contact details and they like you…they make sure that you get them. Busy with customers or not. She said yes in the moment because we’ve been socially conditioned to ‘be kind’ and it’s hard to say ‘actually Alex, I don’t want you to snap me’.

Cotswoldmama · 27/09/2025 08:10

I think the only way you will know is by asking. If she says no or makes excuses or says says yes to going out but is vague and a date is not arranged then she is trying to let you down gently.
As others have said she might not want you to have her Snapchat and so is trying to be nice by not straight out saying no. But then it could genuinely be that she was busy.

GroovyChick87 · 27/09/2025 08:16

She doesn't sound interested in you. Stay professional at work.

RaspberryFeet · 27/09/2025 08:18

Cotswoldmama · 27/09/2025 08:10

I think the only way you will know is by asking. If she says no or makes excuses or says says yes to going out but is vague and a date is not arranged then she is trying to let you down gently.
As others have said she might not want you to have her Snapchat and so is trying to be nice by not straight out saying no. But then it could genuinely be that she was busy.

If you fancy someone and they ask for your number and you are too busy to give it to them in that moment, you don’t forget all about it and never give it to them. You give it to them when you are not busy.

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