I’m finding this a bit irritating

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I’m finding DH quite irritating today.

he’s just come home from a week away with his friends in the other side of the world having a great time. I do not begrudge him this and encouraged him to go.

I stayed at home and looked after our children and pets. In that time I worked, did coursework, kept appointments for DC, did all the cooking and cleaning and parenting. It was very busy but actually lovely.

he’s been back three days and all I’ve heard is how tired he is from jet lag, how unwell he is (hasn’t taken anything for it mind), how busy he is etc. etc.

I feel mean for thinking this but it was nicer when he was away. He’s had zero responsibilities all week and instead of coming home happy and upbeat he’s like a bloody wet weekend!

id also like to add this is a man who claims he’s constantly tidying up and ”doing loads” our house was spotless and clutter free while he was away. He’s back and there’s shite everywhere again!

Is he generally such a waste of space, OP? What are you going to do about his behaviour?

^^this. Has he changed ?

He’s usually okay. He does let things get on top of him and I find it seems to take a lot of effort from him for things I do as routine. I’d quite like to send him back on his holiday!

But how is he ok if he pretends that he's always tidying, but actually he's the one that makes all the mess? It sounds to me like you're carrying him.

By okay I mean fairly happy and nice to be around.

He does do stuff but he is also fairly untidy in terms of leaving things laying about. I have to point out that he’s left stuff on the side and it was clear before for example.

that doesn’t bother me so much it’s more the fact that how can you have a week away and come back moaning when I’ve not had 5 minutes of peace for a week!