Hello,
I've been married for 10 years. From day 1 of our marriage my husband did not want to have sex or kiss. It's been like that since day 1. In our first year we slept together maybe 3 times.
He always has a million excuses like I'm tired, oh I just ate heaps, going to sleep. When he can sense I'm going to initiate he will say oh I need to take a shit or a piss. Then laughs and says go down on me first. It's a way go get out of being intimate. I've spoken to him in several times about how it makes me feel etc. Like there's zero intimacy, he doesn't even like kissing because apparently it makes his lips dry.
During our first 5 years of marriage he wouldn't kiss me and only sleep with me say 2-3 years a year. Only because I would get upset about it.
He will hug, snuggle when I ask for it but again I'm the one always asking. I'm just done feeling unloved. There's no passion and I can't understand why he is like this. He just says it's normal. He says I'm sex obsessed and horny all the time. He has bought me a sex toy in the past. Initially when I asked can you stay and kiss me, he would sigh and say do I have to. He just didn't want to
He wanted to me to use it by myself and well leave him alone.
We have two boys. He was only interested in sex when he wanted to pro create. After giving birth to my first he said there was no way he could ever sleep with me after seeing me give birth. He was repulsed.