Sorry TMI. Anal tags and new boyfriend

[Poppy2205]

Anyone else have these please? Mine are the size of two grapes. Have you had any guys mention them before? Do you approach the subject beforehand hand. Thanks

Do you not need a doctor's appointment to remove them , before any action

Yeah my question was more from an embarrassment point of view.

I have small tags from hemorrhoids, if that's what you mean? I don't have a new boyfriend but in all honesty if I did, with cellulite, stretch marks, wrinkles and buttne, they would be the least of my worries 🤣

Seriously, any bloke who mentioned any of my "flaws' in any manner other than mild and sympathetic concern (& even then!) long After the "moment" of discovery would get short shrift, and quite likely shown to the door.

But also, as a pp has said you can get them removed so might be worth looking into?

I havr tag and hubby knows. Am embarrassed by them and don't like him looking there but he is not bothered by them. However we don't have anal sex but that's just a preference, tags or no tags

I havr tag and hubby knows. Am embarrassed by them and don't like him looking there but he is not bothered by them. However we don't have anal sex but that's just a preference, tags or no tags

Basically my new boyfriend of 6 months told me that he is trying to get used to them. For context im very fit, I run and take care of myself. He has severe autism, mental health and a crazy ex and I never ever brought this up and always tried to encourage him to better his mental health and supported him. I can’t even imagine being intimate with him again knowing he feels this way. We don’t do anal either.

There was a very similar thread maybe 4-6wks ago. A lady in a new relationship who was feeling insecure about hers and wondering if to mention in advance. If you search you should find it.

At some level he just needs to get over it. Sure, they might look a bit weird, but I don’t think anybody’s butthole is their most attractive feature in the first place and ultimately tags are just skin, not some sort of disgusting substance or disease. He doesn’t have to love them, but neither does he have to focus on them.

If you’re self conscious about them then avoiding sex in positions you know they’ll be right on display is an option, until you’ve had them treated; though that doesn’t take away the wider issue that your boyfriend appears to be somebody very hung up on something really quite normal that happens to bodies sometimes, which isn’t likely to be an isolated issue, and isn’t likely to lead to a healthy relationship (particularly not if you feel you always have to “not make a fuss” about his criticisms because of his mental health issues and 🙄 so-called “crazy ex.”)

Slightly off topic but I have a child who has low functioning autism (what i think could be refered to as severe autism). I cant imagine him being capable of being in an intimate relationship where he is treated as an equal. He will need life long supervision for access to food, water, clothing, everything.