Husbands brother- new gf

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Husband’s brother has left his parter of 5 years and got together with the OW (they’ve been on and off for three years) I’m not a fan of her as the first time I met her (and last time they had ‘separated’ as he’d gone back to original gf) she caused some issues in our very early relationship. She seemed to try to exclude me from the group, kept trying to drape herself over my partner and drag him off to dance. I really have no desire to spend time with her but it feels like she and brother are going to want get together a and to play happy families (husbands family are extremely close and the ideal for the brothers would be for us to become a bit of a foursome) how do I keep boundaries to protect my mental health but also keep the peace?

I wouldn’t be inviting them to my home.. meet them out in public or for walk and a meal then go home…when you’re out, you can escape home… keep it at that for a while..

Oh and doing stuff like National trust or nature will take the focus off you.. just keep it light and airy and oh gotta go now..

'With all due respect, she is creepy and I won't be spending any time with her. You're a daft twat for leaving your gf. I have no interest in doing double dates with you or her. Hope this clears things up'.

Fuck kissing anyones ass. And I wouldn't trust my husband as far as I could throw him if he was cool being around her either after how she acted last time. Hopefully he's not a knob though.

Sounds like he'll be back with partner A in no time anyway. I'd just delay for a bit.

Husband wants nothing to do with her but we feel stuck.

Tbh, the brother sounds like the issue, moving back and forth from each woman because he can’t make up his mind as he’s a stupid prick. Don’t get involved with this rubbish. Your dp can see his db, but without you. Get together, my arse!

Well if neither you nor your H want anything to with her then you have a united front.

Surely if your H and his brother are close then they can arrange to see each other and spend time together without either the gf or you being present?

It's not up to his family to dictate to him and you how you should behave with this woman.

You’re not stuck, you’re both in agreement which is excellent. No one can force you to be friends with her or make a social foursome. Just decline meet ups for a while and he’ll probably get back together with his ex at some point. Be busy and wait and see what happens.

I don’t know.. if by any chance it does go the distance- who knows maybe you’ll have kids who’ll be cousins one day. Like a poster above said, I’d just keep it light and breezy for now.

I would avoid the pair of them like the plague. Revolting.

You don't have to keep the peace. You don't have to spend time with anyone you don't want to.