When was the last time you met up with a friend??

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Realised today I’ve not met with another adult through my own choice for a month. I met a friend in August for a short dog walk. Not seen anyone of my choosing since. I’m sad and lonely.

I WFH (not ideal but fits in around young DC) and my job doesn’t really even involve many meetings.

I say hello and make small talk on the school run. I go to the gym 3x a week and again say hello & make small talk to a few regulars.

I only have one local friend.

I tried the “join a club” approach. Everyone else in the club formed a friendship group but I was left on the sidelines (I found out they were all planning a trip together, I wasn’t invited. Ouch). I’ve kind of distanced myself now.

Thought I’d make friends through Dc but that hasn’t happened - not one person invited us out / round during the entire summer, despite me hosting plenty. I see on social media that lots of the other school families do stuff together.

I’m always on the sidelines.

I try to get involved. I’ve volunteered, I’ve been class rep etc. But I just end up doing the grunt work & getting nothing back.

I’m mid-40s. I want some community. I want friends not flakey acquaintances. But I’ve tried and failed so many times. I just can’t face anymore.

Last week and I am meeting a different friend tomorrow

God its hard work op. Im 50s. Meeting friend tomorr. Last weeks coffee took weeks to plan 4 us. Find people slow to commit so I just do things alone. Group things I find the cliques are there and friendships formed. Disheartening really

Im always the organiser but they did say thanks for planning but yeh be nice if someone else did it!!

The Friday before last - met a group of friends I've known for over 25 years and went out for dinner with them.

I see my bestie at least once a month, we have coffee and long lunch and catch up on each other's news. I see my sister usually every other day, we never argue just love and support. I have four grown up kids and DGD7 saw four at weekend, one lives an hour away but I speak a couple of time during week and visit monthly. All are always on the phone for some reason. I work full-time and some colleagues are friends but I don't see them out of work. One neighbour a good friend so I feel very lucky.
Everyone has different things going on and atm I have time to make the effort so I do.😊 sounds like you have made an effort too but please don't give up keep trying you have noto lose.💕

A couple of weeks ago I met a few friends for brunch for my birthday, next week I’ll see another friend for coffee and the week after another for a show. I don’t normally see so many people in a short space of time but it’s my birthday month ha ha
Normally I will see a friend for coffee every few months.

I never meet up with a friend just for the sake of meeting up.

But I do a hobby two evenings a week with occasional weekends, and I have lots of friends there.

I'm the kind of person who will literally never meet up with anyone unless I have to. Not because I don't like people, but I just enjoy my own company so much, and I'm happy just texting people to keep in touch!

yesterday .
I see one friend weekly at least for a walk and another 3 at a hobby.
other friends it’s difficult to make dates work for everyone.