Feeling invisible

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Is anyone else single and struggling with not feeling important to anyone and no one’s priority? I am even starting to feel a little bit invisible I’ve been a single mum from a decade and decided I wouldn’t date and just concentrate on raising my children but after 10 years alone I am really struggling with no having someone there that cares about me or feeling like I don’t really matter to people (kids not including as I just feel like a slave to them!) can anyone else relate? What did you do to help with these feelings?

I think you need to ask yourself why it would require a sexual/romantic relationship to make you visible. What about your friends and family?

Or do you mean you specifically want to feel visible in a sexual way, or as a romantic prospect?

I totally relate to this. Single parent to 2 teens so similar on the slavery front!

I have plenty of friends, full time job and do nice stuff (dinner, cinema, walks, gym classes etc) but it’s exactly as you say - you are no one’s priority are you? No one to say ‘sit down, I’ll do that’ after a rubbish day. No one to organise anything, no one to do nothing with. It all has to come from you!
I have done some on line dating. Nothing disastrous but equally it’s hard to find the get up and go.

i’m absolutely fine on my own day to day but I really do miss exactly what I think you are saying. I don’t want to live with a man. Just the good stuff - feeling ‘seen’ , someone who messages you to see how you are, companionship, sex, the odd weekend away.

I just want to skip the horrors of OLD and get to the bit where you know each other and look forward to a couple of glasses of wine (or a Pepsi!) on a Friday night!!

Sorry I don’t have the answers but you are not alone.

Yes but I am not a priority to any of those people, I am not close to my family and friends have their own lives.

i know that anyone who is married will say it’s not a bed of roses and being married brings many stresses and frustrations. There are many upsides to being single which I really do appreciate. However at weekends all of my couple friends all seem to do family stuff and things with other couples. Even in this day and age it still seems to be the way -dinner parties, weekends away - all with other couples. Aside from that @UnsettledHen, I think what the op is trying to say is that you are no one’s priority, as we all have our own lives to contend with. The care that you from friends and family is lovely, but you are no one’s number 1

Thank you! Hope this answers the person above as this is exactly what I feel like!