Married after cheating ?

[Lorn460]

Just curious how many people have gotten married after there partner cheated on them ?

Loads of people have.
Some it just take time for them to really trust a man again.
Others dont want to put themselves through a again.

Some move on and end the line with marriage, as its not something they want having everything split in a divorce, when said cheater gets half but never really added to it.

Some marry for security but if you cant be your own security after a break up why rely on another man to do it.
Even them that have been cheated on more than once they still want that title of husband and wife.

Then theres people like me that have never been married never seen the point of it, ive been cheated on moved on and love single life.
I wont let another man walk in my home and make it his home.

And them that have partners and very happy they just wont do marriage or add them to the deeds again.
Maybe because of fear but i think their smart women (she shall not be fooled again).

Some of us learn some of use dont.

I think she means to the same guy.

I wouldn't marry someome who cheated on me.

What if we both cheated on each other 11 years ago and now have 3 kids

I wish my partner had cheated on me before we got married as then I wouldn't have married him. I've no wish to legally shackle myself to someone disloyal and feckless. Sadly he waited until after so we had to go through all of the painful rigmarole of divorce. Some people marry people that cheat on them prior to that marriage, some people marry their affair partner, and some people endure cheating during the marriage and continue with the marriage. Everyone is different, but for me NONE of that is remotely acceptable, it's disrespectful.

Well presumably you had discussions about why you had both cheated before deciding to tie the knot? To get to the bottom of why you both felt the need to betray each other in that way?

Its not an important issue to me.

What do you mean by this ?

Yes we have it was quite early on in our relationship and didn't love each other like we do now

If it was 11 years ago and you have stayed together and had three children it seems a little late in the day to start making it an issue.

100% agree. I wish I could go back 27 years and not date him. Now going through a divorce thanks to his cheating and he does the bare minimum for our 2 children

Well I can't imagine a version of the universe where I'd have found myself in that position, tbh.

So I have no idea 🤷🏻‍♀️

I mean that my boyfriend sleeping with someone else wouldn't have any effect whatsoever on whether I decided to marry him or not.

Your as bad as each other then.