I split from my partner (we don't live together) for a few months at the beginning of the year. He drank too much, I felt he was lazy in his flat as it was untidy and drove me mad and he could be a twat when drinking. Rowing etc. eg sending me rambling messages late at night and some where very cheeky. I got sick of it. He pulled his horns back and persuaded me to give it another go saying he had taken me for granted etc. I gave in even though i had been doing ok on my own with my adult son and my dog. His drinking didn't change much but he was more civil and I just thought well as long as we don't live together let him carry on as long as I don't live with him. It's night time drinking. Not daytime. He has some nice qualities and we have had some nice trips away and in other ways we get on well.
Anyway, in the early hours of this morning I got a phone call from him asking who i was talking to on WhatsApp. I hadn't been talking to anyone. Just scrolling on my phone. I told him to get f**ked basically and to wise up. He then accused me of having some sort of thing going on with a man we had bumped into on Saturday that I was speaking to in front of him. Absolute rubbish. We texted to and fro and I told him he has blown it. He had a chance to change and hasn't changed at all and now the unhinged messages have started again. I told him I was disgusted with him and he has mental issues. He lives very close by and called at my door this morning also. I didn't answer. Wtf do I do here? He's the type of person who won't take no for an answer. He said I should have just laughed it off. I said wtf should I when I was being accused of carrying on with another man! It's not normal!