My mum seems to make more effort with my sister..anyone else?

[lethallycharged]

This is going to found petty, t’s a weird situation because I am generally closer to my mum. If there’s an issue she will always phone me first, she opens up to me more about how she’s feeling etc. With my DSis she is less of herself, but she treats my sister how she would treat a friend, she almost turns into a bit of a suck up.
If I’m with both mum and DSis she’ll mostly talk to my sister and bounce off what she’s saying, and our normal dynamic is just not there. Which is upsetting for me. I always say to DH it’s like Dsis trumps me.
I wondered if anyone else feels this way? Their mum treats them more as a daughter but their sister as a friend?

Yes.
Because of this preferential treatment I no longer have any contact with my mother to protect my children.

It is extreme and very obvious that she has zero interest in either myself or my kids.
My sister, her now grown up daughter and her kids are treated very very favourably.

Yep! It’s been more noticeable since my sister had her baby last year and me being pregnant now. The way my mum treated my sister through her pregnancy compared to me is so sad.

I have told myself if she treats my child differently once shes here I will have no contact with my mum to protect my baby

Thanks both for the insights and sorry to hear you feel the same. It’s such a horrible feeling isn’t it? Like you question your way of acting and speaking and wonder why your sister is favoured. What is it that you’re doing wrong or not doing type thing?
I also then feel resentment to both my mum and sister, but I daren’t bring it up for sounding jealous, and I don’t think it would change anything anyway. It would probably make it worse.
So I always decide just to accept it, but one thing it has taught me is to make damn well sure my children never feel this way!!

It's nothing you've done.
I'm in my 60's and one of 6. My dm has always put me last.
However, like you if she needs help I'm her go to.
Fortunately my siblings are great and we made a pact years ago that if dm tells another sibling that I've said or done something they will fact chk and vice versa.
Tbf she has been good to my dc so no problems there.
Also what did help is when I began calling her out on obviously bad behaviour.