Ex partner

[BlurreyFace25]

It came to my attention yesterday that my ex partner often asks our son via text message 'what is your mum doing' or 'is mom napping'. Son is almost teenager so has his own phone, but turns out this has been happening most weekends where he asks. My son mentioned ah dad wanted to know what you was doing. Thought nothing of it until I checked my sons messages where it's every weekend for a few months. Or if it's at shool day he will ask "have you spoken to mum". Am I unreasonable to thing this is strange? Ex partner constantly messages me so I'm guessing if I don't answer him quickly he will just ask our son.

I would stop the constant messaging. You're a busy single mom who works (if you do). Only talk to him about your shared child. Teach your son to grey rock, oh nothing or something innocuous. Is he messaging your son when he's at school?

He's checking up on you and using your son to monitor what you're doing and that's weird and kind of creepy.

He constantly messages you - and asks your son what you’re doing? He just hasn’t let go. I think you need more distance, more boundaries about what and how much you communicate. It’s got the potential to become very uncomfortable. Nobody wants things to be positively unfriendly, co-parenting means a certain essential level of communication, but try to train him to expect less knowing and sharing.

Why does he constantly message you? Don't engage.

Have a quiet chat with your son & dads being unfair asking you if he wants to know what I’m doing he’s to come directly to me & if I want him to know I’ll tell him but it’s very wrong to ask you love x

Be careful he isn't trying to twist things or build some kind of custody case. Why the weird napping question?
Could you supply more information or am I being negative here? X

You can get shared parenting apps to download so you can block him everywhere else.

Why is he constantly messaging you when you’re split and your son has his own phone? No doubt checking up on you.

'Napping' is code for 'is mum in bed with someone'
Did you break up with him and he never really accepted it?
Very weird and unsettling that he can't just let you be. Awful that he is using your son to keep tabs on you.